How to heal emotional hurt

Lightbearer's Library

Dear Soul,

In today’s journal entry I talk about my own journey of healing from some recent family hurt and how using personality type (MBTI) as a framework for healing has been super helpful.

Firstly, personality type helps us to recognize that we potentially look at the world very differently from those who have hurt us. That they may not have intentionally hurt us, it’s just that they have a different way of perceiving and judging the world. When we know their personality type it can help us to understand them, and love is understanding.

Secondly, to heal from the hurt, we can learn about our type (in my case INFP). By knowing our top cognitive functions we become more aware of how our minds work. We can know why we feel hurt and learn how to best heal ourselves.

Thirdly, we can end up replaying our past hurts over and over (this is especially common for INFPs as we have introverted sensing (Si) as one of our top cognitive functions). This can be a waste of time and energy, and only keeps us focused on what we don’t want… hurt! It can be really helpful to use a journal to write down the hurtful stories and then to use it as a way to get deeper into self-inquiry and self-understanding.

Lastly, we can practice mindfulness. Whenever we catch ourselves replaying the hurt story, we can gently turn our focus away from the hurt and towards something creative and hopeful, which is why I’m making video journals for the Lightbearer’s Library!

Let me know if this resonates with you and I wish you all the best on your own journey to healing your hurt.

Blessings,

Kate

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Who's the Lightbearer? Me. Kate Harmony, an INFP. What's in the Library? My journals. What's in my journals? My secrets. Subscribe and see ;)