Ep. 184: He Says He's Trying — But It's Not What I Need

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He says he's trying.

He really does.

He tells the kids to "respect their mom."

He handles the family finances without you having to ask.

He fixes things around the house before they become emergencies.

He keeps doing what he's always done—consistently, reliably.

But it doesn't land. Not even close.

Because you're drowning in decisions and worry and emotional weight—and he's offering you... home repairs.

Let the leaky faucet drip. Just come to the meeting with the school counselor.

Put the checkbook down. Help me carry this pain.

Stop solving the problem in the garage and sit with me in the problem we're having with our kid.

Because here's what he doesn't understand:

His version of "trying" is still leaving you completely alone in the fire.

And you're so tired of pretending that checking boxes equals partnership.

This is Episode 5 of the series:
"Marriage Conversations Midlife Besties Are Having (But Afraid to Say Out Loud)."

I'm Jennifer Roskamp, and this is The Intentional Midlife Mom podcast.

Let's dive in.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free guide: He Doesn't Get It (Yet): How to Help Him See What You're Carrying—Without Starting Another Fight - GET IT HERE
• Check out all the marriage resources at: https://www.jenniferroskamp.com/midlife-marriages-maps

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1. Understanding Emotional Labor in Relationships (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Midlife Marital Conversations (00:01:52)

3. Understanding the Disconnect in Midlife Marriages (00:03:17)

4. The Weight of Emotional Labor (00:06:12)

5. Redefining Effort and Support (00:09:05)

6. The Double Standard in Emotional Labor (00:13:26)

7. What Real Support Looks Like (00:16:18)

8. Bridging the Gap in Communication (00:19:11)