54: From “Have To” to “Want To”--The Mindset Shift That Makes Sobriety Stick

Addiction Recovery

Recovery doesn’t last when it feels like punishment. The turning point comes when sobriety shifts from something you “have to” do into something you truly want—when it stops being about restriction and starts being about freedom.

Language plays a huge role in that shift. Saying “I don’t drink” instead of “I can’t drink” reframes recovery as empowerment, not deprivation. Over time—through meetings, step work, and community—what begins as obligation becomes desire.

Addiction involves both physical dependence and what the Big Book calls an “allergic reaction” that fuels loss of control. Lasting recovery brings about a “psychic change,” where cravings fade not by willpower alone but through spiritual growth and steady effort. With each day, sobriety feels more natural, even comfortable.

The benefits go far beyond abstinence: safe drives home, clear mornings, healthy relationships, and authentic connections. These daily wins build momentum, making recovery something to be cherished—not endured.

Whether you’re taking it day by day or moment by moment, every step forward fuels transformation. Have you felt that shift from “have-to” to “want-to”? Share your story at [email protected]
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1. Turning Have-tos Into Want-tos (00:00:00)

2. Building Recovery Community (00:01:43)

3. Perspective and Mindset Shifts (00:04:47)

4. The Nature of Addiction (00:07:30)

5. Gratitude in Recovery (00:10:00)

6. Footwork and Psychic Change (00:14:46)

7. Day at a Time Recovery (00:16:40)