Ep 60 - Carlos & Heather Whittaker: Respecting Big Differences, Breaking Bad Habits and Fighting for Forgiveness

The Paula Faris 'Faith & Calling' Podcast

This episode of “Faith & Calling” is coming in hot, as in hot topics! They’re everywhere these days, splintering even the deepest and longest of relationships. But Paula’s guests this week have managed to stay united (even thriving!) in marriage while being divided on politics, parenting and the vaccine. Sounds impossible, right? So what’s their big secret?

Social media influencer (shout out to the #Instafamilia!), social justice advocate, speaker, and best-selling author Carlos Whittaker and his incredible wife Heather sit down with Paula for a straight-shooting conversation that will leave you encouraged and inspired by what happens when we stop standing on issues and start walking with each other!

The Whittakers have been married for 21 years and together share three teenage children. While they’ve worked in ministry for much of their marriage, they’ve built much of their solid foundation on the backs of trials, crisis and even personal betrayal, including Carlos’ early struggle with porn. After a lot of therapy and inner healing, he uncovered what was at the core of his addiction to artificial intimacy. He shares with Paula a powerful analogy for anyone looking to destroy the roots of a deep-seated habit and embrace true freedom on the other side.

On the flip side, that season of dishonesty brought Heather face to face with navigating forgiveness. Despite wanting to throw in the towel on their marriage, she tells Paula about the powerful image God gave her of what was actually going on, which led her to pull back and focus on the bigger problem. Hear what she learned in the process about her own deep-seated habits – and her warning for others who may be wishing for a different kind of life than the one they find themself in.

The Whittakers are the real deal and this episode is packed with real joy and wisdom from two imperfect people who know, trust, and rely on God like their life, marriage and parenting depends on it. If you could use some hope, let this conversation with Heather and Carlos - the self-described “hope dealer” - encourage you to let the Spirit move!

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