EP 224: Is Behavior Change the Goal?

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

When you're dealing with whining, hitting, defiance, back talk…well, of course you want it to stop. But what if behavior change isn’t actually the place to start? Not for long-term behavior change, at least.

In this episode, I explore why behavior change does matter, but why it’s not the first goal, especially for kids with vulnerable nervous systems.

HEADS UP! I’m not necessarily asking YOU- the one facing these out of control behaviors- to change your goal of behavior change. But…what if the people who are helping you could stay focused on that truth?!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why all behavior makes sense—even the baffling kind
• What happens when we shift from changing behavior to addressing the nervous system
• How holding two truths at once helps you feel more regulated, even in hard moments

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• All Behavior Makes Sense {EP 198}
• Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior {Ep 84}
• Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior - Webinar and eBook

Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/BehaviorChange

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