42: what if the opposite is true?

Soul Salon with Ayandastood

if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships.

in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: we align our actions to what could go WRONG instead of RIGHT, thereby making the former more likely.

you will hear me walk through common examples where we assume the worst and are often "wrong", such as:

• assuming strangers don't want to talk to us...
• assuming old friends don't want to hear from us...
• assuming everyone online will certainly HATE or cancel us...
• assuming conflict will RUIN our relationships/friendships... and more!!

let me say that i applied the lesson of this episode in the PROCESS of making, editing, and sharing it. here's how:

my inner critic said (repeatedly): "what i'm saying is nothing ✨revolutionary✨ therefore it's not worth sharing this episode". or "i'm not adding anything new here!"

the underlying assumption is A) we get our value from our uniqueness (individualism) and B) no one wants to hear and re-integrate the same lesson again from ME specifically.

WHAT IF THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE? A) What if collective wisdom becomes more potent the more people share it? and B) What if people actually LOVE hearing and re-integrating wisdom they already know and feel to be true, and they love hearing it from ME (not exclusively but in a particular way)

i love the feeling of applying a lesson i am sharing with you, because it makes me feel very aligned and like i'm sharing my life's wisdom with you. with that being said, I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛

Time stamps:

(01:00): Reframe the worst case scenario

(05:11): The energetics of possibility

(06:33): Creativity & Rick Rubin

(07:37): Approaching strangers

(08:08): TikTok, cancellation, & judgment

(14:00): Texting responses

(15:19): Cancelling plans

(17:22): Conflict

(19:07): Reaching out to old friends

(20:12): It's always going to be this hard

(20:48): Valuing your opinion

(22:33): Self-doubt

(23:38): Summary

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SOURCES:

Book: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin

Episode: 35: Awakening to Possibility by me

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