25: you have nothing to prove | the myth of proving yourself

Soul Salon with Ayandastood

if you’ve ever desperately tried to prove yourself to others or to yourself, this episode is for you. today we are discussing the underlying paradoxes and unmet needs at play when we are in the zone of trying to prove and justify ourselves.

tldr: you deserve to pursue things irrespective of the outcome; the people meant for you will love you irrespective of your "success" (which itself is a cultural myth); sometimes proving ourselves is a cry for love; when we cling to the need to prove ourselves, we allow our sense of self to be swallowed by other people's and society's expectations of us.

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Time stamps

(03:56): The paradox of proving ourselves

(13:15): Attaching our worth to the outcome

(17:17): Sacrificing the magic of the process

(23:02): Losing ourselves

(25:40): Lack of genuine support

(30:02): Self-denial

(33:30): Journaling questions

(34:13): Write a letter to yourself

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Sources mentioned:

Bio: J. Krishnamurti text quoted here

Book: You Are a Goddess by Sophie Bashford

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