072: The Booby Trap of Self-Help (And How To Actually Improve Your Life) w/ Andrew Daniel

The Better Man Podcast

The self-help industry is a massive industry. And for good reason: Self-help can teach you how to be the cause in your life rather than the effect. It shows you that you can change your life’s direction and outlook.

But what if self-help doesn’t work for you? What if you’ve read all the books, and still find yourself stuck?

The unfortunate truth is many that travel down the self-help road find themselves at this fork in the road. Today’s guest, Andrew Daniel is the epitome of this.

Why?

A few weeks after publishing his first book, Andrew found himself homeless, repeating affirmations to himself that he’d be successful. Only later did he realize he was constantly lying to himself and living in a fantasy world. The self-help industry failed Andrew—as it has for millions of others too.

This came to a head for Andrew when he saw his body move on a video: Despite telling himself he was confident and secure, his body and movements proved otherwise. To quote Andrew himself, “It doesn't matter what you think up in your head, it matters how you're showing up in your body.”

After stumbling upon this realization, he figured out the missing ingredient from the world of self-help: Its teachings stop in the mind—but the body is how you harness this information to actually improve your life.

In today’s episode, Andrew and I discuss:

• The booby traps of the self-help industry that are keeping you stuck
• Why your physical body is more important for your self-help journey than your mind
• How to feel your way through life instead of thinking your way through

And so much more.

Tired of reading self-help books only to get further stuck?

Listen now.

Show highlights include:

• Why reading a New York Times Bestselling self-help book is almost always a waste of time (and what to do instead to actually improve your life) (8:52)
• What the entire self-help industry gets wrong—and how Andrew Daniel stumbled upon the missing ingredient that makes self-help effective (13:11)
• The “Egoic Intellectual’s Pain” men feel after an emotionally traumatizing experience which can ruin your relationships and hinder your happiness (23:33)
• How to overcome painful situations in life without endless suffering attached (27:48)
• How to reveal your deepest subconscious patterns by simply shaking your hands in the air (41:24)
• The weird way your mind binds you to an unreal past (and why this creates suffering out of thin air) (55:06)
• The “Cinesomatics” system Andrew created for using your body as the ultimate self-development tool (1:01:13)
• How the “Story Stop” method pulls you out of your suffering and injects you into your body (1:10:54)
• The insidious core belief behind imposter syndrome and self-sabotage which becomes even more deadly after achieving your version of success (1:14:48)
• The “Stop Fixing & Start Living” body shift for making all your problems disappear (1:18:03)

Resources mentioned in this episode:

1. Get Andrew’s best-selling book: Awaken To Your True Self: Why You're Still Stuck and How to Break Through on his website here: https://andrewdaniel.org/

On Andrew’s website, you can discover how to use Cinesomatics to actually make self-help effective and schedule an initial consultation with him.

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