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#44: Forgiveness - Part One
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In this episode, we talk about all things forgiveness. This is one of my favorite topics in the betrayal recovery realm and I realize that we are just barely skimming the surface here. I start with sharing a bit of my forgiveness story, just to give all you listeners a bit of context on where I am coming from. Bottom line: initially I saw forgiveness as THE solution and so my second run at forgiveness, I chose to take it very slowly, as I knew I had to do it differently. Some of the other things we chat about:
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- the pressure put on women by our Christian culture to forgive
- the fears that come along with forgiving - like not being able to grieve or talk about the pain and hurt anymore once we forgive
- what needs to happen in order to forgive: grief work, knowing what she is forgiving, and getting safe (safety comes before forgiveness)
- the story of Joseph and how he grieves and forgives interchangeably. Once forgiveness takes place, he continues to grieve. We see in Genesis 41: 51-52 as well as in Genesis 50:20 that Joseph is in the process of forgiving, saying big and little yeses. We see in Genesis 42:24 and 43:30 Joseph grieving (just to name a few instances of Joseph grieving).
- the difference between grief and unforgiveness: unforgiveness is defined by “the demand for what you owe me” whereas grief is expressing the “pain of how you hurt me”.
- what helps her to be able to forgive: him being forgivable - including humility, contrition, talking about it when she needs to, being willing to say “I’m sorry” - many a times.
- what does forgiveness look like when he didn’t do recovery work and he isn’t safe. Sometimes having strong boundaries can FEEL like unforgiveness.
- Shelley mentions Matthew 18: 21-22 when Jesus teaches that forgiveness, and continuing to do so, is based on our hearts, not on a number.
- "Forgiveness is both an event and a process. It’s one big yes followed by many little yeses as the months and years roll by.” - Paula Rinehart, Strong Women, Soft Hearts
- Click here to join the wait list for the Worthy of Her Trust Workshop.
- Click here to join the wait list for the RLW Retreat for women - releasing the next date and location on July 24th! By joining the wait list, you will get early access to ticket sales.
- Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.
- We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!
- Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list.
- Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.
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In this episode, we talk about all things forgiveness. This is one of my favorite topics in the betrayal recovery realm and I realize that we are just barely skimming the surface here. I start with sharing a bit of my forgiveness story, just to give all you listeners a bit of context on where I am coming from. Bottom line: initially I saw forgiveness as THE solution and so my second run at forgiveness, I chose to take it very slowly, as I knew I had to do it differently. Some of the other things we chat about:
…
continue reading
- the pressure put on women by our Christian culture to forgive
- the fears that come along with forgiving - like not being able to grieve or talk about the pain and hurt anymore once we forgive
- what needs to happen in order to forgive: grief work, knowing what she is forgiving, and getting safe (safety comes before forgiveness)
- the story of Joseph and how he grieves and forgives interchangeably. Once forgiveness takes place, he continues to grieve. We see in Genesis 41: 51-52 as well as in Genesis 50:20 that Joseph is in the process of forgiving, saying big and little yeses. We see in Genesis 42:24 and 43:30 Joseph grieving (just to name a few instances of Joseph grieving).
- the difference between grief and unforgiveness: unforgiveness is defined by “the demand for what you owe me” whereas grief is expressing the “pain of how you hurt me”.
- what helps her to be able to forgive: him being forgivable - including humility, contrition, talking about it when she needs to, being willing to say “I’m sorry” - many a times.
- what does forgiveness look like when he didn’t do recovery work and he isn’t safe. Sometimes having strong boundaries can FEEL like unforgiveness.
- Shelley mentions Matthew 18: 21-22 when Jesus teaches that forgiveness, and continuing to do so, is based on our hearts, not on a number.
- "Forgiveness is both an event and a process. It’s one big yes followed by many little yeses as the months and years roll by.” - Paula Rinehart, Strong Women, Soft Hearts
- Click here to join the wait list for the Worthy of Her Trust Workshop.
- Click here to join the wait list for the RLW Retreat for women - releasing the next date and location on July 24th! By joining the wait list, you will get early access to ticket sales.
- Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.
- We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!
- Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list.
- Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.
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