#82: If You think Men are Intimidated by You, Listen to This!

Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want.

In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out.

Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.

Episode Highlights:

• Why “men are intimidated by me” is a story that keeps women stuck
• What’s really happening when you hear that feedback on dates
• How success can become a shield that hides your softer side
• The vibe that comes across as guarded or unapproachable
• Why you don’t need to shrink your achievements to attract love
• The key to integrating strength and vulnerability so connection can grow

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth
01:50 Why Mainstream Advice on Intimidation Misses the Point
03:57 The Tootsie Pop Analogy: Tough Exterior, Soft Inside
04:29 Hiding Behind Success and Achievements
05:41 How to Integrate Strength and Vulnerability

07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In

If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call.

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass