Episode 194: Let’s Define Some Things with Laurie, Matt, and Steve

Hole in My Heart Podcast

Whenever we hear people talking about some of the topics we engage in (sexuality, marriage, addiction, sin, repentance, trauma, etc.), we hyper-tune our ears for what they believe and how they hold to what they believe.

If you’re curious about our views, this is the episode for you!

Today, we answer:

• What is our philosophy of approaching the LGBTQIA conversation?
• Why do we start the sexuality conversation with talking about the purpose of our lives?
• Why do we usually use “LGBTQIA” and not “same-sex attracted”? (But we are willing to use either?)
• How do we view inborn sin vs. internal, created-order goodness?
• How might we encourage you to respond when someone tells you “I am gay?”

//Highlights:

“We need to submit all of these identities to Christ. Whether that is our sexual identity (heterosexual, not straight, LGBTQIA, etc.), or being a mom, or being a white evangelical in America. Am I submitting all of my identities to Christ and letting him sift out the garbage because there is garbage in all of it?” —Laurie Krieg

“If you go into a hyper-conservative situation and you say, ‘I am gay,’ they might be picturing the most extreme stereotype they have that might be very inaccurate to the way you live your life. Vice versa, if you go into a more liberal community or within the LGBTQIA community and you say, ‘I’m same sex attracted,’ that might be a trigger for them to think, ‘Oh, this is an ex-gay narrative, and they think I need to be straight in order to be saved’ (and that’s not what you mean). Therefore, changing the words that you use based on the context helps you to be more understood.” —Matt Krieg

//Question of the Week:

What is your favorite or least favorite word?

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• We mention Core Needs. Here is that list:

• Affirmed: Overwhelmingly approved of (Ps. 118:6, 2 Cor. 1:21-22)
• Desired: Specially chosen—no pretense necessary (Is. 41:0, John 15:16)
• Included: Wanted in this group, team, or partnership; I belong (Is. 43:1, Eph. 2:19)
• Loved: Unconditionally accepted (Jer. 31:3, Rom. 8:39)
• Nurtured: Cared for; held (Is. 40:28, Matt. 23:37)
• Purposed: Filled with a sense of profoundly mattering (Ps. 57:2, Rom. 8:28)
• Rested: Re-centered and reset in mind, body, spirit; includes having fun (Ex. 23:12, Ps. 127:2)
• Delighted In: Seen as unique and special (Ps. 139:14, 1 Cor. 12:27)
• Protected: Unafraid; trusting everything is under control (Prov. 18:10, Matt. 10:28)
• Noticed: Seen inside and out (Gen. 16:13, Ps. 139:7-8)