Episode 58-Navigating Emotionally Destructive Relationships with guest Leslie Vernick

Embracing Your Season: Raising Littles and Understanding Teens with Paige Clingenpeel

In today’s episode of Embracing Your Season, Paige shares an interview from her recent trip to AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) in Dallas, TX with Leslie Vernick. Leslie Vernick is a licensed clinical social worker, relationship coach, and author of multiple books including Emotionally Destructive Marriages, which is the primary topic of this episode. With frank honesty and deep compassion, Leslie shares her broken upbringing and how it influenced the work she does today. Together, Paige and Leslie provide insight into navigating emotionally harmful relationships, how boundary-setting is healthy and helpful, and how working on yourself is the only real way to see change in your life.
Paige’s Takeaways

• Having firm boundaries is actually loving people well
  • When you have love for yourself as well as love for the individual, you can instill a very rigid boundary of what is right and what is wrong - and that is healthy!
• You are NOT responsible for fixing them
  • You are not and cannot be the source of their change. You can be a catalyst but change only comes from the desire of the individual and the power of the Holy Spirit.
• If you’re in an unhealthy relationship (family, friendship, marriage, etc.), at some point you have to grieve that they aren’t what you want or what you need.
  • When you realize that these unhealthy relationships are not what God designed, you need the time to grieve. By taking the time to mourn, process, and heal ourselves, we are better equipped to handle the relationship (or to end it) moving forward.
• Biblical literacy is so important!
  • When you dig into your own Bible, when you do the study, ask God for guidance, and seek mentorship from someone you trust, you are less likely to be emotionally manipulated by someone taking scripture out of context for their gain.

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Books Mentioned:

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

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