045: Staying Sexy While Parenting, with Megan Lambert & James Mattingley

Desire on Fire

Staying emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually intimate is challenging enough for any of us, at any time in life.

But add to that mix a newborn — with the sleep deprivation, body changes, constant outflow of energy and limited inflow, and the vulnerability of needing so many new things and making so many adjustments — and the dance of intimacy takes on many unexpected steps.

So how do you keep the dance sexy? How do you stay sensual, playful, and open while navigating the challenges of new parenthood?

When it comes to cultivating unguarded communication, connected conflict resolution, and transformational sex for committed couples — there’s no better pair than Megan Lambert and James Mattingley.

Both as a couple themselves and as coaches, these two are amazing at embodying the sacred feminine and masculine while keeping it extremely real and down to earth.

In this interview, I go deep with both Megan and James and ask questions about many of the challenges couples face in this new chapter of their lives: making time for intimacy, learning to see the tender need underneath the complaint, getting to know your body all over again, and taking radical responsibility for the quality of connection.

I learned so much from these two in this conversation, and I know you will, too, no matter where you are in your journey.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

• The biggest things that have changed since Megan and James’s baby was born
• The choices we have in every moment of conflict and complaint
• The hilarious (and oh-so-honest!) nickname they have for their baby
• How Megan got reacquainted with her pleasure, and how they rediscovered their sex
• How they keep it sensual and attentive, even when things feel crazy
• The counter-intuitive truth about spontaneity
• Megan and James’s favorite daily tools for nourishing connection

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