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How to make the most of a finite life (w/ Oliver Burkeman) 40:22

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There’s only so much you can do in a week – or, according to Oliver Burkeman, in the roughly 4,000 weeks the average human lives. Oliver is a journalist and author of the books Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Meditations for Mortals, and the newsletter “The Imperfectionist.” Chris and Oliver discuss the paradox of why change can only occur once we accept that we might not be able to change. Oliver also shares how life’s mishaps can become our most treasured memories and why sharing your imperfections is an act of generosity. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts For a chance to give your own TED Talk, fill out the Idea Search Application: ted.com/ideasearch . Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links: TEDNext: ted.com/futureyou Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Probably Poly

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Creating Community Spaces 1:04:23

vor 3 years1:04:23

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We're diving into a reader question on creating effective community spaces. This episode we discuss safer spaces, braver spaces and creative interventions. Is the ban hammer the way to go or are there compassionate ways to manage safety concerns? What does success look like for a harms process? References: chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://www.creative-interventions.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/CI-Toolkit-Final-ENTIRE-Aug-2020-new-cover.pdf https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO…

Probably Poly

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Navigating Social Situations While Awkward 36:57

vor 3 years36:57

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Episode 69 (Over Rated Sex Acts) is now live! Join us as we discuss how to navigate common events in polyamory communities. What difficulties do attendees experience engaging in new spaces? Get a better understanding of how community leaders approach community events. Learn ways to become more involved and how to create a space that fits you best. Don’t forget to subscribe if you want notifications when we post new episodes. Citations: - Photo by Inga Seliverstova from Pexels #NavigatingSocialEvents #EventBurnOut #ProbablyPoly #Awkward #ENM…

Probably Poly

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Overrated Sex Acts 48:24

vor 4 years48:24

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Laugh with us as we giggle and guffaw in our 69th episode discussing overrated sex acts. We normally bring you heavy topics, but this episode is all about fun. We would like to caveat that the information presented is based on our own experiences and opinions. C*m and celebrate with us getting to number 69. Don’t forget to subscribe if you want notifications when we post new episodes. Citations: - Photo by Daria Sannikova from Pexels - The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus https://books.google.com/books/about/The_Ultimate_Guide_to_Cunnilingus.html?id=yk9p4FqmJqwC - The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio https://books.google.com/books/about/The_Ultimate_Guide_to_Fellatio.html?id=X8T0sglLnrAC…

Probably Poly

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Unicorn Hunting Relationships 1:06:03

vor 4 years1:06:03

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You asked for an episode on the ethics of Unicorn Hunting and we gave it to you! Listen to Michael, Mandee, and Sarah discuss the defining factors for Unicorn Hunting. What are the red flags and prep work needed if you are considering this relationship style or being approached to join a couple? We also discuss how to address Unicorn Hunting as a group leader. Citations: - Photo by Daria Sannikova from Pexels - OPP Episode: https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-33-the-one-eggplant-policy - Closed Relationships:https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-63-closed-relationships-ethical-otherwise - Couples Privilege Episode: https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-61-couples-privilege - Consent is Not Always Enough: https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-58-consent-isn-t-always-enough…

Probably Poly

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Sexual Safety Agreements Chain 1:04:16

vor 4 years1:04:16

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Join us as we welcome back Sarah and introduce a method of creating durable, modular, and ethical agreements to help you meet your safer sex goals. Once a much talked about concept fluid bonding agreements have fallen out of favor in ethical non-monogamy for being often problematic and hierarchal, and we can’t help but agree. However, there were some valuable concepts we wanted to salvage and continue to polish into more useful and more ethical forms. Merchandise Website: https://www.etsy.com/shop/MandeeMakesMerch…

Probably Poly

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Building Trust and Cultivating Gratitude 1:10:41

vor 4 years1:10:41

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In this episode we look at building up trust and open honest communication, especially how to build trust with people who have experienced betrayals in the past, from yourself or others. We also look at the power of gratitude and communication tools to make it all work.

Probably Poly

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Crystal Byrd Farmer on The Token 55:16

vor 5 years55:16

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Episode 65 (Crystal Byrd Farmer on The Token) is now live! We are very lucky to have Crystal Byrd Farmer drop by this week to talk about her book. “The Token” is a practical guide, including workshops, on how to look critically at majority communities wishing to increase diversity across any axis as well as common mistakes, how well meaning people are often still doing harm, and the best ways to avoid those harms. Citations: Crystal’s Website: https://crystalbyrdfarmer.com Buy the Token from the Publisher: https://newsociety.com/books/t/the-token…

Probably Poly

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A First Hand Look at the Franklin Veaux Harms Process 1:29:48

vor 5 years1:29:48

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We have the amazing honor this week of interviewing five of the people who spoke up about their experiences with Franklin Veaux, who have gone collectively by the name "the Franklin Veaux survivors" (although they don't all individually identify as survivors) — Melanie, Rose, Celeste, Eve and Marissa. We talk about what went right and what went wrong during the harms process and ways in which we can apply these lessons to our communities and culture going forward. Citations: Survivor Archive: https://www.itrippedonthepolystair.com Jiji Judges: https://twitter.com/jijijudges Crystal Farmer on Reid Mihalko’s harms process: https://medium.com/@crystalbyrdfarmer/on-accountability-and-reid-mihalko-12bcb8afbb21 Rose on community response to Harms: https://ourbetternatures.wordpress.com/2019/06/08/community-response-to-complaints/ Survivor Statement about the Harms Process: https://link.medium.com/8g9lXLxeXbb…

Probably Poly

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Closed Relationships: ethical & otherwise 54:59

vor 5 years54:59

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In this episode explore the ethics of closed relationships. This includes explicitly non-monogamous closed relationships (often called poly-fidelitous) as well as how unintentionally closed relationships that represent or see themselves as open form. Visual Resource for Boundaries, Wants & Needs Visualization: probablypoly.com/resources…

Probably Poly

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Same Words Different Tools 46:38

vor 5 years46:38

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In this episode we invite therapist Dr. Daniel Stillwell on the show to discuss the difference between the ways in which he applies the theories of boundaries, needs, and wants in his practice and common ways these theories are discussed or talked about in relationship help texts and the poly community at large. We separate multiple functioning ways to apply different versions of these theories for different scenarios and discuss the importance of defining your terms in discussions with partners. Join Our Next Chat Saturday November 7th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/ftw-gpod-adc Get a copy of the visual from the episode complete with map key at: https://www.probablypoly.com/resources Check out Dr. Daniel Stillwell at StillwellTherapy.com…

Probably Poly

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Couples Privilege 1:02:20

vor 5 years1:02:20

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Episode 61 (Couples Privilege) is now live! If you have at least one relationship then you have couples privilege. In this episode we look at what causes couples privilege, why it is so hard to see in yourself, and what we can do to help alleviate the sorts of harms that couples privilege is likely to cause. Join Our Next Chat tomorrow Saturday November 7th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/ftw-gpod-adc…

Probably Poly

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Consent Case Study 51:56

vor 5 years51:56

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We attempt to provide both theory and application advise in relationship ethics. One of the best ways to do that is to take information from one or more of our theory episodes and apply them to a detailed case provided by a listener. This is the first of our case study series and it looks at a very difficult and intertwined situation of a person realizing they are non-monogamous after 17 years of marriage and investigating what options they have in the bounds of ethics if their partner is unwilling to open their marriage. Join Our Next Chat tomorrow Saturday September 26th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/zta-qeiw-kbn…

Probably Poly

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Boundries, Needs, and Wants 54:56

vor 5 years54:56

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One of the most common confusions we hear in Ethical Non-Monogamy is, what exactly are boundaries, needs, and wants. How can you tell them apart? How can you tell if your partner really has a need or if it’s just a want? In this episode we tackle these questions and more as we attempt to clearly explain boundaries, needs, and wants. Join Our Next Chat on Saturday September 26th from 5 to 7pm EST: meet.google.com/zta-qeiw-kbn Citations: First Video Episode at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKjr-doAGKk&t=36s Donate at: https://www.probablypoly.com/donate…

Probably Poly

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Consent Isn't Always Enough 1:07:14

vor 5 years1:07:14

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Consent is one of the most difficult and important topics in interpersonal ethics. Join us as we try and work out some of the more difficult questions associated with this tangled topic. What exactly do we mean when we say “consent”. What sort of consent can we give? When is consent alone not enough to guarantee that an interaction is ethical. Citations: First Video Episode at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKjr-doAGKk&t=36s…

Probably Poly

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No Such Thing as Objectivity 52:30

vor 5 years52:30

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Sharing emotions with the people around you is a cornerstone of authenticity but its easier said than done (especially in a culture which unfairly praises apparent objectivity), and much easier said than done to do it ethically. This week we look at all the benefits of that emotional content, the myth of the neutral “logical” position, and how to engage that content as ethically as possible. Next Group Chat will be August 22nd from 5 to 7 pm est. on Google Meets Link: meet.google.com/nyk-uzex-wkf Citations: Episode Referenced for Manipulative Emotions: https://soundcloud.com/probably-poly/gatekeeping-and-shame Episode on Holding Space through the lens of Mourning: https://soundcloud.com/probably-poly/mourning…

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