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Tiffany Yu is the CEO & Founder of Diversability, an award-winning social enterprise to elevate disability pride; the Founder of the Awesome Foundation Disability Chapter, a monthly micro-grant that has awarded $92.5k to 93 disability projects in 11 countries; and the author of The Anti-Ableist Manifesto: Smashing Stereotypes, Forging Change, and Building a Disability-Inclusive World. As a person with visible and invisible disabilities stemming from a car crash, Tiffany has built a career on disability solidarity. Now that she has found success, she works to expand a network of people with disabilities and their allies to decrease stigmas around disability and create opportunities for disabled people in America. Episode Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:26 When do we choose to share our disability stories? 4:12 Jay’s disability story 8:35 Visible and invisible disabilities 13:10 What does an ally to the disability community look like? 16:34 NoBodyIsDisposable and 14(c) 21:26 How does Tiffany’s investment banking background shape her advocacy? 27:47 Goodbye and outro For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/…

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S2 E19. The Surprising Lesson from a Bird

Unfolding with Kathy Varol

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A lesson from the universe that I wasn’t expecting, delivered by a wild bird that keeps visiting and pecking at my office window.

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#Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Kathy Varol #Lets Talk

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S2 E37. End of Season 2: The Changing of Seasons 6:46

vor 38 weeks6:46

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This episode wraps up season 2 of the Unfolding podcast! What a beautiful ride it’s been. This episode also includes an invitation to check internally on your own changing seasons and to ask what needs to be let go of. What is no longer serving you? What has been taking more energy than it gives back for so long, you’ve forgotten what balance feels like. Where is it time to create space so new things can grow?…

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S2 E36. The Importance of Who You Surround Yourself With 5:29

vor 38 weeks5:29

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It’s important to accept what is, in relationships. What you have control over is you, and how you show up, not how others show up or how others change. Not everyone has the same capacity, that’s not better or worse, but it’s important information for what is possible. What is an energetic match and what is not. If you continue to show up for people who refuse to show up for themselves - don’t be surprised when you’re doing all the heavy lifting. If you continue to pour yourself out to people who don’t have the capacity to hold space for you, don’t be surprised when you end up in puddles on the floor. Treat your energy with care, and honor what you have capacity for and what others have capacity for.…

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S2 E35. The Limits of Self-Care 4:03

vor 38 weeks4:03

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You can’t self-care yourself out of a fundamentally misaligned part of your life. Self-care in other areas could create the space and habit to see what needs to be changed in the misaligned area, but it will not in itself fix the misaligned part. Better sleep won’t make your toxic relationship better. Meditation won’t suddenly make your boss appreciate you. Becoming a workaholic might distract with professional accolades, but it won’t fill that personal connection hole in your chest.…

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S2 E34. One Way to Check In on What’s an Aligned YES or NO 8:06

vor 39 weeks8:06

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Here I’ll share a practice that I use for checking in on what’s an aligned YES or me, and what’s an aligned NO. The more I do this, the more attuned I get to myself, and the faster I understand what is aligned for me and what is not. This practice also uncovers areas I have misalignment, and offers a doorway into where I can spend time healing.…

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S2 E33. Taking a Curious Look at Procrastination 6:59

vor 39 weeks6:59

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Procrastination can take many forms. It tends to be around pushing off something hard, or uncomfortable. Procrastination is an action of pushing off that’s driven by emotion. And emotion is a messenger. It’s important to ask why it’s there and what it’s trying to tell you. Procrastination is usually defined by pushing off “doing”, but I’ve recently discovered ways that I’ve procrastinated by pushing off “being” as well. Let me share what that looks like.…

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S2 E32. Encountering a Boundary Area That’s Internally Misaligned 10:11

vor 39 weeks10:11

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We all have boundary areas that can feel a little like quicksand, or walking into a foggy field. They’re a blind spot to us. This can often be because we were taught at an early age that we didn’t get to have boundaries in that area, so we developed a strong habit of shoving internal discomfort aside, as soon as it arises, when we walk into that foggy field. In this episode, I share an example of my ill-defined boundry area, and how I’m starting to create definition within it, one delayed experience at a time.…

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S2 E31. Resentment as a Signpost and a Guide 8:24

vor 40 weeks8:24

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Often resentment indicates an unmet wanting. An unmet wanting of friendship, love, acceptance, inclusion, approval, desire, fairness, or something else. When you have resentment toward someone that isn’t moving through you, allow this to be an invitation for reflection. Let yourself go back into that relationship, that encounter, and replay it. Ask yourself if there are any places you can take accountability for communicating to the other person that they could treat you in a way that isn’t reciprocal, that isn’t balanced, that isn’t actually in alignment with how you want to be treated? I find resentment can often be the feeling left over when we forfeit our power to another person. When we wait for them to approve of us, we stop seeing our own worth and standing up for it. This visualization, of going back to take radical accountability of how you might have permitted an imbalance to happen in the relationship can shift everything. This reflection can shift the power back to you and finally let you move through this feeling and fully let go of the resentment.…

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S2 E30. Using Shame as a Guidepost for Healing 11:12

vor 40 weeks11:12

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If you let it, shame will be a neon pointing you to where you have more healing to do. Shame shows us parts of ourself that we haven’t accepted. Parts that we have withheld compassion, understanding, and love from. Parts that do not feel safe with the current you. In this episode I’ll share a memory of a past action I buried in shame, and how it transformed when I gave it space.…

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S2 E29. Wisdom from the 16-Year-Old Me 10:43

vor 40 weeks10:43

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Listening to music the other night, I’m taken back to my 16-year-old self. She wants to how everything turned out, and if I’m ok. She wants to know who she becomes.

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S2 E28. Listening to Your Inner Wisdom 8:41

vor 41 weeks8:41

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A friend asked me yesterday what I love about coaching. I’d actually never been asked that before. What I love, is helping others tap into their inner wisdom. Helping them uncover the knowing that has been there all along. I love the laugh of delight that happens when a clear channel to knowing opens. I love the privilege of being a mirror that helps another person see deeper into themselves. If you find yourself at a crossroads right now, and you’re not sure where to go, listen to this episode for some advice on how to tune into your inner wisdom.…

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S2 E27. Wasting Energy to Make Friendships “Work” 7:57

vor 41 weeks7:57

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I’ve wasted an insane amount of energy over the years trying to make friendships “work”. When I hadn’t found my community yet, and I was hoping I’d find my people. Trying different people on, seeing if I could make them work as my people. Here’s the thing. You won’t have to “try” when it’s for you. Yes, you might need to step outside your comfort zone at the start, and ask that person that you think is your vibe if they’d be interested in grabbing a cup of coffee. But after that initial discomfort to get the ball rolling, if it’s right, the ball will gain it’s own momentum.…

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S2 E26. The Gifts of Knowing and Unknowing 7:55

vor 41 weeks7:55

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I have spent much of my life talking down to myself when I don’t know things. Grading myself on the toughest of curves, and feeling that not knowing is a sign of my inadequacies. I wrote a poem last week, that dives into this topic, but offers a different perspective to view unknowing through.

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S2 E25. The Illusion of the Progressive Ladder (Lessons from a Snake) 5:57

vor 42 weeks5:57

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The underbelly of a snake has wide, straight, horizontal scales that bi-sect across its body. The underbelly scales look like a ladder, going from the tip of its tail to its head. However, to gain momentum, the snake creates “s” shapes with its body - contracting parts and expanding other parts - it’s this serpentine movement that propels it forward. The snake is a good example of the illusion of the ladder. The illusion that progression in our lives should be a straight line, from one rung of the ladder to the next. Don’t fret if you feel you’re going side to side, that might be the very movement you need to get to where you’re trying to go.…

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S2 E24. Your Spark Is Meant to Fuel Your Dreams 5:35

vor 42 weeks5:35

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When you give your spark to someone else’s dream. Your spark moves out of your body where the energy to feed it lives. It moves into theirs, and their energy now needs to feed both. This isn’t good for anyone involved. The most powerful your spark will ever be is when it’s housed in your body, fueling your dreams.…

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S2 E23. Thoughts Are Like Water 5:28

vor 42 weeks5:28

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Thoughts are like water. Some evaporate as soon as they arrive. Like dreams. Other thoughts are like fog, you only get a hint of them but you can’t see through to a clear picture. They can obscure your thinking of other things. Others are like a drip, repeating constantly and causing damage in the process. Others stagnate, and like stagnant water become an unhealthy incubator. Others flow like a river, a natural rhythm and progression.…

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S2 E22. Family Jetlag 8:17

vor 43 weeks8:17

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After a recent trip to see my family (who I love), I realized, I felt exactly like I had jetlag from flying across the globe. My insides were off-kilter. I was a bit disoriented from my body and from time. It occurred to me, that being around family, instead of jetlag across time zones, we can experience jetlag across our own lifespan. Not knowing what space and time we’re currently in - and switching between them.…

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S2 E21. Wisdom from Trees (Living with Holes) 4:29

vor 43 weeks4:29

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It’s amazing how a tree can have an entirely hollowed-out section in its trunk, and still be thriving. I bet our higher selves think the same thing when they look at us humans.

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S2 E20. The Weight of Believing People Want to See You Fail 7:21

vor 43 weeks7:21

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I have been carrying around the weight of believing people want to see me fail for as long as I can remember. This belief has made me feel guilty, or that I don’t deserve success. What if, instead, I believed everyone wanted to see me succeed? Let me tell you how this perspective shift changed my inner landscape.…

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S2 E19. The Surprising Lesson from a Bird 7:55

vor 44 weeks7:55

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A lesson from the universe that I wasn’t expecting, delivered by a wild bird that keeps visiting and pecking at my office window.

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S2 E18. The Importance of Frequency for Behavior Change 5:58

vor 44 weeks5:58

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Finding a way to have frequency/repetition for practicing a new habit is incredibly important for creating lasting behavior change. If it only happens once a month, the change you’re trying to create is hard to remember and almost impossible to keep top of mind. In a relationship, find ways for the new pattern to take up more space - an out-weighed amount of space - so it can be practiced and become the auto-response.…

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S2 E17. To the Eternal Optimist, Remember, the Sun Is Blinding 5:04

vor 44 weeks5:04

5:04

Always being a ray of sunshine has its downsides. Remember, the sun is blinding.

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S2 E16. The Entrepreneurial Journey Is a Spiritual Journey 7:42

vor 45 weeks7:42

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Entrepreneurship is a spiritual journey. I don’t think this is talked about enough. The spiritual aspect of jumping off the corporate cliff took me by complete surprise. Let’s dive into why the entrepreneurial journey is a spiritual journey.

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S2 E15. The Addiction of Worry, and What to Do About It 5:31

vor 45 weeks5:31

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Worrying about the future can become addictive. Believing you can control what happens by worrying and thinking about it enough. If you find yourself stuck in a worry loop, it’s important to find a way to step outside of it, so you can gain a new vantage point.

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S2 E14. Spanking as a Form of Discipline - My Evolution of Thinking 9:17

vor 45 weeks9:17

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When I grew up, spanking was a common practice. Now, many countries have outlawed spanking children (the USA isn’t one of them). Here I share my personal experience with being spanked as a form of discipline, how my views on it have changed, plus some science.

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S2 E13. Self-abandonment and an Invitation to Be Selfish 7:47

vor 46 weeks7:47

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When you have practiced the habit of self-abandonment, to break out of those deep worn patterns, you need to allow yourself to move to the other side of the spectrum. Give yourself permission, an invitation, and a challenge to be selfish. More selfish than you’ve ever been. Try it out. Try it on. See what feels right, and what doesn’t through your lived experience. This intentional practice will enable you to break your old self-abandonment patterns and start moving into a place of alignment - finding a spot to settle somewhere between the spectrum of self-abandonment and selfishness.…

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S2 E12. Scars on Our Physical Body and Our Energetic Body 7:43

vor 46 weeks7:43

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Meditating this morning, an analogy between scars on our physical body and scars on our energetic and relationships bodies surfaced. I’d love to share it with you.

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S2 E11. Redefining Empathy 9:56

vor 46 weeks9:56

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For everything in life, there’s a tipping point where more is worse instead of better. Empathy is no different. Identifying too strongly as an empath can have its pitfalls. When empathy becomes central to your identity, you may start to over-empathize. This creates a risk of neglecting your own lived experience. This can make setting personal boundaries challenging.…

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S2 E10. Your Unhealed Parts Don't Only Hurt Yourself 6:53

vor 47 weeks6:53

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Not healing ourselves doesn’t just hurt our own ability to fully engage in the world, but it hurts those closest to us too. Our armor cages out and contracts our partners as well. One of the most important things we can do for our loved ones is take time to heal ourselves.

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S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe) 7:58

vor 47 weeks7:58

7:58

In the past, I was compromising with the partners I chose, because I thought I was a compromise. And I thought over-compromising - if the “pros” in my list were more than the “pros” in their list - would keep my heart safe. But it doesn’t work that way.

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S2 E8. Let's Talk About Energetic Grounding. Try This. 7:52

vor 47 weeks7:52

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I recently heard a definition of grounding that resonated deeply. I hadn’t heard it explained this way before. In this episode, I’ll share that definition with you, and offer a new visualization to try in your grounding practice.

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S2 E7. If You're Feeling Fragmented and Ungrounded 5:27

vor 48 weeks5:27

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Each of us has a gravitational force. When you allow yourself to sink into the depths of your being, and call all of your energy back into you, you become a force that is felt deeply. Not only by yourself - allowing yourself to be cocooned in your gravity - but also by everyone who encounters you. But when you allow your energy to be pulled into a million directions - toward all the shoulds and expectations - you become fragmented. You feel fragmented because your energy is fragmented.…

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S2 E6. Grief - Honoring the Loss of a Pet 4:43

vor 48 weeks4:43

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I recently went to a wake held for the passing of a friend's dog. It got me wondering why wakes for pets aren’t a common thing. Pet’s become true family members, and yet their loss is usually marked in relative isolation. Grief is a hard, heavy, and ferrell emotion. Community is a key part of being supported through the grief journey.…

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S2 E5. Dystopian Energy and the Rabbit Hole of Global Doom 6:33

vor 48 weeks6:33

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Dystopian story energy (Aliens, mad max, horror), is the same frequency as the doom and gloom addiction to the future and current state of our world. Many people fall into an addictive trap, feeling compelled to know about all the suffering in the world and embody it. This addiction causes an unrooted overwhelm that’s driven by guilt, a sense of responsibility or duty to things you can’t control at the expense of what you can control.…

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S2 E4. Do You Have the Capacity to Hold Space Right Now? 5:54

vor 49 weeks5:54

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It’s important to ask others before unloading on them if they have the capacity to hold you in this moment. This question acknowledges that as humans we don’t always have the capacity to support others. And it’s important to check in with yourself - if someone doesn’t check in with you first - to see if you have the capacity to show up for how someone is asking you to show up. When you are an emotional holder for others, you’re allowing them to energetically pour into your cup. It’s ok if your cup is too full.…

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S2 E3. Chemistry Is Like Magic and Each of Us Is a Magician 6:40

vor 49 weeks6:40

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Each of us holds the potential to be a magician. Consider how we influence those around us. Our energy shapes meetings, events, and interactions. Our actions trigger responses. The frequencies we operate on ripple out, leaving an imprint around us wherever we go. To harness this power, you must be intentional about the reactions you wish to ignite.…

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S2 E2. Are You Unintentionally Bringing Into Your Life the Thing You Want to Avoid? 8:35

vor 49 weeks8:35

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Many times the way we contort ourselves to behave in an aim to prevent something, causes that thing to happen. Once you become aware of this counterintuitive truth, you start noticing this mind-boggling pattern everywhere. In this episode, I share an example of how I was bringing people who wanted to see me fail into my life.…

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S2 E1. Season 2 Kick-off 5:14

vor 50 weeks5:14

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Welcome back to the Unfolding podcast! It’s been a bit of a break, and I’m so excited to share new perspectives with you, starting with this season's kick-off reminder about how uniquely extraordinary, delightful, and awe-inspiring you are. Anytime you need a reminder of how special your you-ness is, listen to this.…

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108. End of Unfolding Season 1 5:12

vor 2 years5:12

5:12

What an amazing season of Unfolding. 108 episodes delivered three times a week. This podcast has been a remarkable journey for me. I hope it’s been a delightful journey for you too. As we wrap up this season, I wanted to share my thoughts.

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107. The Longest Journey Begins With a Single Step 5:06

vor 2 years5:06

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A thousand-mile journey sounds daunting, even impossible. At the start, when the path forward is filled with uncertainty, there is an equal measure of doubt. But the truth is, each of us will complete multiple thousand-mile journeys in our lives.

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106. When the Safety Net Becomes the Straight Jacket 8:32

vor 2 years8:32

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I had always thought of my job as a privilege. And it was. I had an amazing job, at an amazing company, doing things other people dream about. And it was my dream job for a while....until it wasn't. Until one day the perceived safety net of my position and all that it provided transformed to feel like a suffocating straight jacket.…

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105. A Perspective to Help With Overwhelm 6:20

vor 2 years6:20

6:20

My brother recently shared this analogy with me, and I can’t stop thinking about it.

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104. No One Has the Answer And Everyone Has the Answer 6:10

vor 2 years6:10

6:10

I always felt like other people knew something I didn't. That other people had "the answer". That there even was "an answer", and I was already behind. Turns out, to any meaningful question, there is no "right answer".

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103. Meditation: Finding your Expansiveness 14:12

vor 2 years14:12

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Today’s episode is a guided meditation. Find a quiet spot, take a seat, and let’s look inward to find your expansiveness.

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102. A Perspective Shift from a Bad Omen to a Blessing 6:19

vor 2 years6:19

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Today I want to share a recent perspective shift I had, that moved me from the fear something was a bad omen, into the realization that something was a blessing.

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101. What the Root of the Word Integrity Can Teach Us 5:52

vor 2 years5:52

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The word "integrity" comes from the Latin word integer which means "whole" or "complete". Integer can also mean a non-fractional number, or a number that is whole and not fragmented. It means being true in every scenario. That there is one authentic version of you.

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