87. The Whole Family Suffers When a Man Calls Himself a Woman │ Elle

Whose Body Is It

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When nine-year-old Elle found out she was going to be a big sister, she was overjoyed. She helped raise her younger brother and as they grew up, she was happy to act as a support, confidante, and the first-call-in-a-crisis. But when she became pregnant, her brother’s attitude toward his sister changed completely. He never acknowledged her daughter, never wanted to look at or hold her as a baby, and Elle ended up falling out with him. She did not understand why he turned on her until many years later, when her brother called her to let her know that he was ‘a lesbian woman’ now.

He shared that his treatment of her stemmed from his jealousy of her, for one thing he'd never gotten to get his nails done with their mother. Elle began looking into autogynephilia and realized that her brother was living in a porn-sick, sex-obsessed alternate reality. He had quit working and started an OnlyFans, where he dressed up as an underage girl. He spent $14,000 on laser hair removal, plus hormones, and surgeries. He demanded financial support from their mother and let bills pile up until creditors were harassing his parents.

While Elle's parents have extended themselves financially, emotionally and physically to support her brother, finding support for themselves has not been easy in the trans-affirming culture.

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