S2E18: Responding to Transphobic People... Actual People, Not Online

Straight Wife Trans Life

There are times when someone famous shows us their transphobic side or a transgender person makes poor decisions that come to light and they paint a negative image for the transgender community. Both examples actually had their moment in various news outlets this week and for those of us with a transgender partner or spouse, we may get caught in the middle of a fresh batch of transphobia. In this episode, I explore ways to respond.

Mentioned and Related Links:

• The people making headlines this week: CNN and Rolling Stone
• TransActual UK: Transphobia
• Medium: How to Respond to Transphobia
• Attitude: Next Goal Wins - Meet the Amazing Trans Footballer Who Inspired Taika Waititi's Film and the Star Who Plays Her
• Book: Transgender History, second edition by Susan Stryker
• Book: Black on Both Sides, a Racial History of Trans Identity by C. Riley Snorton
• Book: Before We Were Trans by Dr. Kit Heyam, Ph.D
• Journal: TSQ: Transgender Studies Quarterly
• Amnesty International: How to Tell Someone You Know They're Being Transphobic
• Boston University CIDI: Responding to Misinformation about Gender Diversity
• YouTube: ACLU: How to Respond to Trans Misinformation
• QueerAF: How to Respond to Trans Misinformation from within the Trans Community
• Trans Reads: collection of free trans-focused literature
• Media Bias/Fact Check: A Resource to Check Your Information Sources

Places to look for therapy and professional support:

• Psychology Today
• Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

More transgender families:

• YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
• YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
• YouTube Channel: The Rage
• TikTok: TransitionTogether
• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

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