Part 2: Financial Infidelity and Career Suicide: Can You Recover? with Debra L. Kaplan

Sex, Love, and Addiction

After a successful career on Wall Street, where issues regarding sex, money, and power are legendary, Debra L. Kaplan merged her fascination with narcissism, sex, power, and control with her studies in psychology. Debra’s book, For Love and Money, became the inspiration for her groundbreaking clinical work. In part 2 of this episode, Debra continues her discussion around infidelity and money, how to heal after a financial betrayal, and what compromise looks like.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:00] The way a couple handles money is how they handle other issues in their relationship.

[4:35] What should couples do when they’re in crisis and are trying to regain control of their finances?

[5:35] Sit down and come up with a game plan on what you both want out of this relationship and its future

[6:45] How can couples begin to work towards healing?

[9:15] Dr. Rob shares a personal story around the challenge between recovery and money.

[11:40] As an addict through and through, and being in recovery, you have to learn how to not be selfish.

[18:45] What’s Debra’s new book about?

[21:15] Not everyone can afford therapy, but Debra created this book for couples who need the help.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss

Debrakaplancounseling.com

Financialtherapyassociation.org

QUOTES:

• “If there’s been infidelity, secret keeping, and lies around money, absolutely seek help.”

• “I had to say no to something I wanted and every time I saw that [dream] car in the street, I feel bad, but I did the right thing.”

• “You don’t have to be talking about money, you can be talking about ‘coupleship’ like raising your kids, but money is the biggest one.”