The Science and Faith of Bouncing Back: Nicole Wilke on Resilience

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What makes some children overcome unimaginable trauma while others struggle to recover? Is resilience something you're born with, or can it be cultivated? These questions drive our fascinating conversation with Dr. Nicole Wilke, author and Director of Research at Christian Alliance for Orphans.
Drawing from her extraordinary background—growing up in a family that fostered 70 children and personally experiencing severe health challenges as a teenager—Nicole brings professional expertise and lived experience to this critical topic. Her insights challenge conventional wisdom, revealing that resilience is less "bouncing back from" and more "growing through" adversity.
The heart of resilience, Nicole explains, lies in relationships. "When I'm weak, I can borrow from your strength," she shares, highlighting how humans were designed for interdependence rather than independence. This perspective transforms how we approach trauma recovery, shifting focus from individual grit to supportive connections. For children who've experienced separation, abuse or neglect, healing happens primarily through consistent, attuned relationships that communicate worth and belonging.
What's particularly striking is how science and faith align in understanding resilience. Nicole unpacks research showing that spirituality correlates with better recovery outcomes, while biblical principles like finding purpose in suffering parallel scientific concepts of post-traumatic growth. This intersection offers practical strategies for parents, social workers, and anyone walking alongside vulnerable children.
The conversation takes a powerful turn when addressing systems change, advocating for family-based solutions over institutional care and locally-driven approaches

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Kapitel

1. Introduction to Resilience in Child Welfare (00:00:00)

2. Nicole's Journey in Orphan Care (00:06:14)

3. Understanding True Resilience (00:11:43)

4. Faith, Identity and Overcoming Adversity (00:19:05)

5. How Faith Helps Build Resilience (00:27:09)

6. Restoring Dignity Through Family Systems (00:38:14)

7. Three Keys to Building a Healing World (00:51:56)

8. Finding Hope in Difficult Work (01:02:22)