543 | Leading Families: Conflict To Community

The Chris LoCurto Show

Use the timestamps below to guide you better as a leader or individual:

• How do you go from conflict to community? 0:00
  • Welcome to the chrisliccardo show, leading families conflict to community, and the journey from discord to unity within families.
  • Why conflict within families leads to tension and can lead to strained relationships.
  • How to make a shift from conflict and tension to being able to have open dialogues, even if they have healthy conflict in them, to create family bonds.
  • The importance of healthy boundaries.
• How to remove yourself out of the conflict. 5:09
  • The desire to control and the desire to win, and how to remove yourself from the emotional effects of conflict.
  • The first thing to do is recognize when and why people add to conflict.
  • The importance of recognizing when someone is struggling with a specific topic or the way that something is presented, and how it can be seen as an example of someone who is in task mode.
  • How perspective gathering questioning can sound like accusing someone of doing something wrong.
  • Once someone has changed the way that they are asked a question, it takes away any defensiveness from the person.
  • Recognize when someone is struggling and what caused it. Take responsibility and adjust communication in a way that is loving, kind and in the direction of the other person.
• Why is community so important as leaders? 13:25
  • The first thing to recognize is why community is so important as a leader. The more people operate in quality community, the more they are healed and feeling healthy.
  • The role of leadership in family situations that are trying to diminish conflict or have the best community.
  • One of the best ways to heal someone who has experienced trauma is in community, communal dancing, singing and enjoying each other.
  • The six areas in the world that have the highest number of centenarians, people who live over 100 years old, have a phenomenal community aspect.
• How to help create a harmonious environment. 19:18
  • The first thing a family leader has to do is recognize the importance of not being emotionally handcuffed to conflict.
  • One of the most important qualities of a harmonious environment.
  • Get to a place of understanding where people are coming from and what they are experiencing in this moment.
  • Lead the whole family to a greater community.
  • Your job is to create the communal aspects of the family.
  • Communication forms the backbone of any thriving family community, and it's the backbone for a thriving community.
• Fostering a space where everyone feels heard and valued. 25:44
  • One of the big aspects of communication is fostering a space where everybody feels heard and feels valued.
  • When someone doesn't feel heard, repeat back everything they've heard.
  • Communication forms the backbone of any thriving family community. One of the most important aspects of communication is leaning in other people's direction and helping them understand they are heard.
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  • The more you can solve these aspects as you do that, the more you will be able to celebrate family and community.
  • Get away from the junk and be with people.