Growing Through Pivotal Moments with Helen Dellheim
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This week on the Phoenix Tales podcast, Yuliana welcomes Helen Dellheim, a former attorney of law and currently a real estate executive. After going through the untimely death of her mother, nothing was ever the same for Helen. Although tragic, this event turned out to be a pivotal turning point in her life, giving her the courage to make dramatic changes and grow through these pivotal moments on both a professional and personal level.
Helen talks about the disastrous effects that parental death can have on an individual. She recounts her experience of feeling grief while being a new mom and dealing with a broken marriage. Although it wasn’t easy, Helen was able to turn her life around and rise out of the ashes. She tells us all about these hard-learned lessons, from finding the courage to part ways with her ex-husband to learning how to color outside the lines. Finally, Helen opens up about her decision to make a career switch and adds that her mother’s death taught her to live every day like it’s her last. Not only did she start living her life to the fullest career-wise, she also became a powerful and loving role model for her children.
Episode Highlights:
- Dealing with parental death
- The importance of allowing yourself to feel grief
- Appearance vs reality of a happy couple
- Growing through pivotal moments in life
- Making a big career switch and coloring outside the lines
- Living every day like it’s your last
- The song that resonates most with Helen
Quotes:
“Our friends are always like, ‘Oh, you guys are such a perfect couple. You always look so happy.’ Well, hello, looks are deceiving. And inside the marriage, there's a lot going on that's not spoken.”
“Definitely not feeling like someone's always going to judge or kind of wants to steer you one way is completely liberating in that you can make your own mistakes and no one's going to say, ‘Oh, I told you so.’”
“I have lived, like people say, live each day like it's your last. I have done that since she passed. Because I think it's very important, because we really don't know when our time is. So, whenever it is, I'm hoping that I've given my sons enough skills and understanding that, yeah, it'll be okay.”
“Long time ago, my sister said that happiness is a choice, and I got so mad at her. I was like, that is not true. Well, you know, there is some truth to it, if there is a truth in that the brain, it can be rewired. It takes effort, it takes lots of hours of probably internal work, but I do believe it's possible.”
“If it were my time tomorrow, it's okay because I feel everyday fulfilling that mission, that's my life.”
“It's the music, and feeling like I am the ‘Dancing Queen’ because I am. I love music and I love to dance.”
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