Episode 4 with Becky Vannes

Julia Sotas

Show Notes: I don’t want people to feel like this is just for younger women or sexy people. Being a trophy wife about someone who is willing to be an asset in someone else's life and having pride about the relationship you're in and making it greater. It's the energy of when you can look at something in one area you can apply it everywhere and you can apply it everywhere and becoming the leader of your own life. The trophy wife energy is the supporting rocket fuel to support your partner to be greater and in return you get greater. "I made a demand a long time ago to be his girlfriend so he didn’t need one. I be the energy of his girlfriend and add the fun and play in life." A trophy wife always gives in and in return gets what she wants. I don’t have to always understand what he does but in turn allowing him to be him and create a life that he would like to have without limitation and in return it comes back and I get to choose for me together. Its not always fun but having the energy of I got your back, how can I support you? With true creation, you have somebody supporting you in that way and not letting the little things stop you and distracting you. I can't put it in words what it means when somebody tells you, "you know what you don’t have to eat shit from nobody." We have done it for each other few times as well. When you have this energy, it's such a partnership, there's such a togetherness, oneness. There's also an element of individuality about having to grow as people on our own. Its wonderful to have that and also create a life where you can do things if you were married or not. This works everywhere in life. People don’t like to be told what to do, they don’t like being controlled. You have a lot more ease in relationship if you have relaxation and allowance you have for them and you. What is something that would be so uncomfortable for you? And then play with that. Ask - What would actually be fun right now? There's so much space in that question and so much allowance.