"Get To" vs "Have to" with Tyler Todt

2 Cent Dad Podcast

Tyler is a ball of energy and has a ton of wisdom to shore through struggles in his marriage and life. A "normal guy" in many way which makes him approachable but very abnormal in the way he approaches life and the energy that he brings. Find Tyler on twitter (https://twitter.com/tyromper)

Where to find Tyler:

• https://twitter.com/jerryteixeira
• https://twitter.com/jackdcoulson
• Nail in the head video

Transcription below (May contain typo's...):
Tyler: [00:00:00] [00:00:00] I want to be that crusher at work. You want to get your I've done, but you also want to come home and be alive. And I, I talk to my wife all the time. I want to infuse energy when I've walked through the door, I don't want to bring work home.

I want to be that dad that's in there now we're wrestling, we're throwing each other around. We're playing, it's much needed, man. it's so important.

Mike: [00:00:17] I think there is such a thing people miss out on when they're not intentionally immersing themselves in their kids' world.

getting down 'em and just like totally being all about it. Like I'm talking like the character, like they're like getting in on it and it's yeah. I think that's a serious thing because it's about being mentally present, but it's you've got to, it's not just turning your phone off.

It's actually getting in and saying I'm going to actually be engaged with you and it's totally on her level.

Tyler: [00:00:46] Yeah. 100%, man. I agree with you. And they notice, right? Like you're, my daughter can notice, if I'm not present, if I'm not there or if I'm really like last night, we took her to the park and I just had this little thing.

I don't know where popped into my head, where I said, I'm a [00:01:00] robot. To hug you. That's just, I'm just like chasing her around being a robot. Like she's running, we're screaming, I'm hugging her, and it just, it was the best hour of my life, but you can't do that if you're not present, if you're not really intentional about it, So 100% agree with you, man. How old are yours, Mike?

Mike: [00:01:16] So my oldest is nine. And then, so it's nine, seven. four and two, and then we get number five coming effective.

Tyler: [00:01:24] That's right. That's you're good. We're going to have five, man. You never sleep, right?

Mike: [00:01:27] Yeah. Never

Tyler: [00:01:28] see it.

Mike: [00:01:31] No, it's like part of it gets a little easier.

The old, like the more kids you have because they play so well together. it's a lot harder in a lot of ways, but it's like the kids play well together. And, they get out of that higher maintenance stage, after they're like, four plus, like they're doing more stuff, they're more autonomous and it's great.

I love it, man.

Tyler: [00:01:52] Nothing better, man. That's Fred that said

Mike: [00:01:55] we're done at five, but I don't

Tyler: [00:01:56] know. you're, you've got a basketball team. Why not just go for a [00:02:00] baseball team? Great.

Mike: [00:02:01] I will say that, a man is blessed and having, having a children's like having arrows in a quiver, in the equivalent of a warrior or something to that.

The fact, and I Googled what a quiver arrows isn't it's 10. And I was like, I don't know about that.

Tyler: [00:02:19] It's all right for your wife, but there's your answer,

Mike: [00:02:21] fortunately she's the one that's wanting, would want more kids and probably I would, but anyways.

Tyler: [00:02:25] Yeah, man. Awesome. Hey

Mike: [00:02:26] Tom, I want to say thanks for being on Tyler.

Todd tote. Sorry on the podcast here, dude. I, we first met on Twitter. because you are like a cosmic beam of energy man of positivity. And I just love everything that you do. And this is your message. And so I just want to say thank you for one for just totally amping me up every time I see a post from you.

Tyler: [00:02:49] Thank you so much, man. It's honored to be on here too. I've watched a couple of other podcasts and you're a guy that I love interacting with too, man. I think we got the kids thing. We got the faith thing. We got the hard work thing. We got the positivity. [00:03:00] So it's, you're a man that I just love interacting with Mike and it's, I'm honored to be here.

I'm humbled to beyond man. So thank you so much. I appreciate it.

Mike: [00:03:07] Awesome, man. Hey, I wanted you to tell your story a little bit. I know you were like, you were a professional poker player for a little while. Yeah, I know you also had, have gone through some struggles in your past and your marriage and in your parenting and some of that stuff, and that's shaped who you are and the positivity you bring.

And I would love to hear that story for one. The other thing I'm going to throw at you, cause I didn't tell you before this podcast, I love, you're always posting these videos. Are you doing these workouts at this like outdoor gym? And I have this, I was wondering. Do you about resources around just for dads to do workouts like that with it that maybe don't have a gym membership.

Maybe that's they just have a pull up bar and like they're doing pushups and they're doing running. They're doing, maybe they got a pull up bar and a jump rope. I would love to get your thoughts on that. What's your routine people can do. And maybe we encourage some dads to. Yeah, it's

Tyler: [00:03:59] sad.

[00:04:00] The first thing man is I love Twitter so much too, man. And we've connected through there, but I was depressed the first week Corona hit. Like I was really getting back into the gym and going strong and feeling great and having all this energy then Corona hits and it closes right. And I'm like, what do I do now?

And then I just found, I think, I'm Jack Colson on Twitter as well, and he's a really big body weight guy, JT, Jerry ticks. There's another guy. So I just started following these guys and these guys are beasts, and the cool thing about Twitter is they'll interact with you. they'll just talk to you, you can ask specific questions and they'll holler back at you.

And man, I learned so much the best $27 I've ever spent was on Jack Colson's ebook. And I got a whole list of workouts, body, weight, workouts, and so Yemen, you don't need any equipment. That's the cool thing. Like I have a pull up bar. and that I'm in the best shape of my life right now. And it takes 35, 45 minutes, four or five days a week.

And that's it, So if you're a dad and you think, man, I don't have time. Cause there's a lot of times I still don't go to the gym probably four days a week. Do the body weight workouts. You're at home, just in my garage. Or we got a couple of walk down where [00:05:00] there's pull up bars and cool. Places do it outside, but yeah, I'm just doing little circuits, man, where I'm doing high knees, I'm doing planks, I'm doing pull ups.

I'm doing, just creating little circuits that I do that man after 40 minutes of that. And just my energy level goes from here to here and I'm ready to conquer the day, <...