Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern da ...
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It always surprises me how often a potentially great relationship is cut short because of avoidable mistakes and insecure behaviors that we haven’t learned to manage. “But doesn’t love solve everything?” Well, not exactly. What often happens is that these toxic patterns slowly undermine every chance at love we find (or at least make the search much…
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(Matt Monday): How to Stop Obsessing in Early Dating
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How do you stop obsessing over someone you’ve recently started dating? When someone seems to tick all our boxes, it can be hard to NOT become flooded with thoughts of a possible future together. We anxiously wait for their text. We put them on a pedestal . . . and as a result, potentially push them away. In this week’s episode, I share 5 things you…
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Over my career, I’ve had so many people ask me how to get someone to actually call them. We seem to live on our phones these days, and yet, it feels like no one wants to pick them up and actually have a conversation. We're all good with texting, posting on social media, or sending messages, but when it comes to hearing someone’s voice? Well, that s…
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271: Why It’s Actually Good to “Settle” in Love | Feat. Oliver Burkeman
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Today it's my pleasure to sit down with the excellent Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman), author of the new book "Meditation for Mortals", which I've found myself recommending to all my friends and family as his work has hugely influential on me in recent years. We sit down to discuss: - Why "settling" in relationships is necessary - How to find you…
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(Matt Monday): 5 Mindsets to Heal Your Heartbreak
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THIS is one of the top reasons why a breakup can feel so raw . . . You may have only recently let your guard down and shown your real feelings, only to have the other person end things. This can feel especially painful because it’s like they’ve rejected you for who you truly are at your core. But it doesn’t have to feel that way, because it’s not a…
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When you’re in love and someone decides to end the relationship, it’s natural for your brain to go into "panic mode." Why are they doing this? How can I be the person they want? What can I say to win them back? If you allow these swirling thoughts to take over, you’ll likely end up pushing them further and further away. Now, I’m not here to tell yo…
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270: Q&A: Defining the relationship, Getting back with an ex, Standing out on a date
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This week, I answered your questions live on a host of dating topics! Come join and listen in! :) ►► Learn What It Takes to Get Real, Lasting Commitment. Watch the Limited-Time Replay of Casual to Committed now at: http://www.LoveLifeReplay.com
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(Matt Monday): If You Want To Find Love With The Right Person, Pay Attention To THIS...
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Tired of dating the wrong people? When we really want to find a relationship, saying “no” to the people who don’t align with our core values can feel scary . . . especially when we’re not meeting a lot of people we connect with. We may even start to loosen our standards and become attached to someone who’s only giving us crumbs. In today’s episode,…
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Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is th…
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269: Commitment Q&A with Matt, Audrey and Stephen!
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This week Stephen sits down with Matt and Audrey to talk about all things commitment (including some questions about their own relationship!) Topics include: Why people fear commitment Why choosing your partner feels so high stakes What makes sharing your life feel harder in 2024 Why we hold back emotionally Deciding if your standards are too high …
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(Matt Monday): How to Attract People Who WANT Commitment
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Why is it that we seem to be attracted to certain people who only give us scraps of attention? It often happens when we tell ourselves that someone is so rare and desirable that they’re worth holding on to even if they don’t want the same things as us. In today’s episode, I’ll show you the trap that many people end up falling into, plus one key qua…
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(Rewind): What Makes Someone Suddenly Commit?
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Have you ever been with someone you were certain would never settle down? The type who would declare to all their friends that they just “weren’t made” for a relationship . . . only to one day announce they’re in a serious relationship or even getting married? When this happens, we think, “What did the person they committed to do that I didn’t?!” W…
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268: Live Q&A - Know if They're Ready for Commitment, Should You Leave the door Open After a Breakup?
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Matt went live on Instagram and YouTube and answered YOUR questions! We talk about male role models, knowing if someone is willing to truly commit, and whether to leave to door open for your ex to come back. >>> Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid "Relationship Limbo". Register Now for my FREE Ma…
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267: "He Still Won't Commit After 2 Years"...What's The Best Move Now?
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Matt and Audrey answer a question from a listener in an exclusive "situationship" with someone she truly connects with, but who still doesn't want to fully commit and call it a relationship. We discuss how to interpret their behavior, what to do to protect yourself from future pain, and what your options are now that you've invested 2 years in some…
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(Matt Monday): How to Make Someone Choose YOU (Even if They Have Lots of Options)
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Have you struggled to find people who actually want commitment? Do you feel like you’re always trying to persuade someone why a relationship is a good thing? Dating can feel harder than ever in 2024. In today’s episode, I explain why so many people are anxious about commitment, give 3 different mindsets on commitment that can totally change someone…
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There’s a line from the movie Vanilla Sky that I’ve always loved. It’s when Tom Cruise’s character realizes: “The little things... There’s nothing bigger, is there?” That’s often true in attraction too. So many people are looking for the huge epiphany, instead of the subtle-yet-powerful changes to their behavior that can skyrocket their results. As…
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266: Esther Perel - Part Two! The Best Advice for Finding Love Today
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Esther Perel returns for part two of our chat on all things modern dating and sexual communication in relationships. In this episode, Matt and Esther discuss: The realities of the biological clock (and how to date accordingly) How to find a romantic partner for your age The concept of "soulmates" and what matters in relationships Having the right e…
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(Matt Monday): The Hidden Reason They’re Not Committing to You...
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Have you ever found yourself in the “casual zone” with someone you’re dating . . . and it seems impossible to escape it? When it started, you were fine with them saying, “Let’s see how it goes,” but you soon found yourself stuck in limbo with all your friends asking if you were in a relationship . . . While there are many positive reasons to take t…
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(Rewind): Feel Them Pulling Away? AVOID THIS MISTAKE
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I’ve heard this story a thousand times before . . . You go on a date with someone and hit it off. Things seem to be going well, and pretty soon, you're seeing each other all the time. You text them daily, make plans for the future, and every time their name pops up on your phone, you feel a surge of happiness and excitement. That very same exciteme…
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265: Esther Perel’s Advice On Modern Dating, Sexuality, And Communicating In Relationships
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In this episode, we're joined by world renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel! Esther is a New York Times Bestselling author who books "Mating In Captivity" and "The State Of Affairs" have had a profound impact on our understanding of modern relationships. In this conversation, Matt and Esther talk about how to create desire …
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(Matt Monday): What To Do When They Aren’t Asking You Questions on a Date
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“Were we even on the same date?” I’ve heard this more times than I can count when people feel frustrated that their date didn’t ask them many questions . . . or in some cases, any questions at all. In today’s episode, I respond to a viral tiktok on this topic and talk about how to tell the difference between someone who’s self-absorbed vs. someone …
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(Rewind): Should You REALLY Call Them Before The First Date? Here’s My Answer…
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It’s strange how we often feel more comfortable with the idea of going on a date with a stranger than talking on the phone. But isn’t it a good idea? Shouldn’t we test how they are on the phone before we meet in person? In this clip, we answer a question from someone who feels that men get scared off when she suggests a phone call, and give some pr…
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264: Grief Expert Shares The Worst Thing to Do After Heartbreak w/ David Kessler
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What are some practical ways we can deal with the grief we'll face in our lives? How do we stay present and not get lost in the painful stories and traumas of the past? And how do we get over guilt and regret? I shared a clip from my talk with Grief Expert David Kessler earlier this week, and I wanted to share a part two because I know how powerful…
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(Matt Monday): Healing from Heartbreak And Grief w/ David Kessler
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Have you ever suffered a loss you’ve never really moved on from? It could be someone you loved. It could be a failure, or the loss of a life you thought you would have. It could be trauma that goes back to childhood. The good news is, you can heal. I had the enormous privilege of hosting world-renowned grief expert David Kessler at my Retreat in Fl…
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(Rewind): 13 Subtle Ways to Make Someone Want More With You
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In today’s new episode, I’ll share with you exactly how to do that through 13 highly practical tips to get him to take you more seriously. Some of these are subtle, but each one of these points can have an outsized impact on how your relationship moves forward. I really wanted to make this episode because the tone you set in the beginning will serv…
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