When you’re on the foster and adoption journey, marriage can get super challenging. This show is meant to help you rebuild or strengthen your marriage so you can be the parents your foster or adopted children need you to be.
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How to stop minimizing your spouse's needs, thoughts and feelings
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We’re discussing the hurtful practice of minimizing your spouse’s needs, thoughts and feelings, and how to do a better job of prioritizing them. Understanding Your Spouse's Perspective The importance of empathy in marriage, especially under the strains of fostering. The Impact of Minimizing and Undervaluing Negative consequences of not fully acknow…
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You don't need date night (Go for this instead)
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We’ve all heard it. "Date your spouse." "You need date nights!" Let's flip the script and introduce something we call “Connection Night.” The Benefits of Connection for Foster Parents Fostering can be incredibly rewarding, but also challenging, and maintaining a strong relationship is essential. Connection nights offer: Connection and bonding. Stre…
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Navigating grief together with Dr. Melody Aguayo
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In this month's episode, we’re discussing how to recognize and navigate grief together in marriage because grief is such a big part of the fostering and even adoption journey. We have a very special guest with us, Dr. Melody Aguayo! Dr. Melody is a parenting coach with a huge heart for families and children. With many years under her belt, Melody's…
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(Part 2) How to find identity outside fostering
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In part 2 of our “Identity outside of fostering” series, we cover traps to avoid and how our self-perception shapes how we communicate. Introduction Today, we’re getting into some deeper things concerning identity, and we want to shed some light on the traps or dangers of how we see ourselves to help all of us make better decisions in our lives and…
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How to find identity outside fostering
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In this episode, we’re talking about finding an identity outside of being a foster parent. What is identity Identity is who you see yourself as Many people aren’t happy with who they see themselves as feel not good enough, not important/significant and can say things like “I’m just a mom or __________” Joel interviews MaryBeth (the main parent in o…
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Recognizing and working through stress-triggered responses
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In this episode, we’re talking about recognizing and working through bad responses to each other as a result of stress and things that trigger you. Stressors of fostering: The stressors that the main load bearer can have (episode 13) Bulk of tasks (paperwork to organizing now chaotic schedules) to parenting (often a child - or children with trauma)…
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The costly love of fostering
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We’re talking about the pursuit of selflessness, doing hard things, pain, sacrificing, or in other words, costly love. Why are we talking about this? Because this is what we’ve all chosen by fostering, and it's not easy. It wears at everyone so we need perspective that helps us be strong and .......well, just keep perspective. We think this episode…
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Splitting the mental load of fostering
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We're talking about splitting the mental load of being a foster parent, challenges and how to support each other. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is so important when you’re pouring out a lot as a parent and facing different challenges and stressful situations day in and day out and you can quickly become like an engine running with…
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(Part 2) Setting boundaries with family, friends
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Today we’re picking up our series on setting healthy boundaries with family and friends. Setting boundaries can be one of the hardest things for people to do but one of the most important. The difference between walls, boundaries and healthy boundaries Why are healthy boundaries so important? Because your marriage is team #1 Protecting your mental,…
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Setting boundaries with family, friends
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In part 1 of our series on setting healthy boundaries, we’re talking about (cue dramatic music) setting healthy boundaries with family and friends. This can be one of the hardest things for people to do but one of the most important. We cover: The difference between walls, boundaries and healthy boundaries Why boundaries are so important to your ma…
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(Part 2) Developing a fostering mindset
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We pick up where we left off last month on developing a mindset that will best serve you in your marriage and when you’re fostering. Understanding how we think is vitally important because our behavior, decisions, reactions and emotions all come from it Now let’s get back into some key mindset and character traits that have served us well. 1. Kindn…
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Developing a fostering mindset, part 1
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When you’re doing hard things like fostering, developing a healthy mindset is everything. We’re talking about developing a mindset that will best serve you in your marriage and when you’re fostering. Understanding how we think is vitally important because our behavior, decisions, reactions and emotions all come from it Personality styles play a hug…
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When you feel like a fostering failure
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On this episode, we’re talking about when you feel like a failure as a foster parent and how to manage through that. Foster marriages opened their heart and home to helping out children in need, had good intentions, perhaps a lot of expectations of how everything would go, and now reality is setting in and you’re not handling things well at all Typ…
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Deciding if you should foster
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Deciding if you should foster is a life-changing decision for everyone involved. We give our best advice on how to communicate about it especially when you’re not on the same page. Communicating about this can be a big struggle for couples Massive issue and perhaps it comes out of nowhere and catches 1 spouse off guard It's emotional It can trigger…
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(Part 2) Better communication by understanding personality styles
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In this episode, we’re in part 2 of discussing the importance of understanding personality styles through the lens of DISC. High S (S) Stabilizing, Amiable, Democratic, Patient Where they’re gifted: Caring deeply for others Steady and stable Predictable Friendly Sympathetic and understanding Great listeners Patient Very loyal Weaknesses or how they…
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Better communication by understanding personality styles, part 1
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On this episode, we’re talking about the importance of understanding personality styles through the lens of DISC. Why this is important It’s super important to have better communication It’s better for not taking things personally It’s important for understanding each other DISC 101 We all send and receive information the way we prefer to send and …
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Parenting from the same page
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In this episode, we discuss being on the same page with your parenting in your Fostering Marriage. We cover the importance of same-page parenting How to be unified instead of creating division How to make sure one spouse doesn’t feel left alone or left behind How to make better decisions together How to create consistency for the child Why being a …
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How to support each other in the struggles of fostering
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In this episode, we’re talking about supporting each other in the struggles of fostering in a wholistic perspective. 1. Physical Home life (chores, responsibilities, etc. ) Foster duties such as insurance, appointments, etc. The spouse who’s NOT taking on more task encouraging the other to take a break Keeping health and fitness a priority Keeping …
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How to make fostering fit your marriage (not the other way around)
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It’s easy in fostering to lose focus on making your marriage the higher priority. Learn how to change that mindset and keep your marriage priority #1. Introduction Today we’re talking about making foster parenting fit your marriage, not the other way around. What holds couples back from keeping their marriage the higher priority: We place more impo…
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How to keep or create unity
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In a Fostering Marriage, you’re faced with stressors, emotional struggles and hard decisions that can chip away at unity. Learn how to keep or create unity in the midst of challenges. Introduction If you listened to Episode 0, welcome back and we’re thrilled you’re here! If you didn’t listen to episode 0, go listen because we share a little about w…
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What the Fostering Marriage podcast is all about
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Welcome to the Fostering Marriage podcast! We hope you’re having a fabulous day where you are! This is your hosts, Joel and MaryBeth Fortner. We’ve been married for over 12 years and for 3 years we’ve been on the fostering and adoption journey. We’re starting this show to specifically help couples who are also on this journey, no matter where they …
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