Today, John explores the connection between love and the nervous system through the lens of Polyvagal Theory. He discusses how understanding the four states of the nervous system—ventral vagal, sympathetic, dorsal vagal, and play—can enhance emotional connection and emphasizes the importance of co-regulation, self-care, and creative actions to fost…

Today, John shares his personal journey following the devastating loss of his home in a fire. He discusses the challenges of life after loss, finding temporary housing, and new life directions. He reflects on the importance of authenticity in rebuilding one's life and the necessity of processing your emotions. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Pu…

Today, John hares the three key principles that have significantly impacted his life: seek nectar, love hard, and resist nothing. He emphasizes that joy is something we must actively produce in our daily lives, love is a powerful force that should be extended beyond ourselves, and resistance often indicates the areas where we need to grow. Order Jo…

Today, John shares his insights on what to look for in a partner, emphasizing the importance of 'ability' in building a meaningful relationship. He discusses the significance of creating a safe space for differences, building trust, the necessity of evolving together through life's challenges, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, …

Today, John and Lair explore the evolving concept of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, emotional processing, and the need for male friendships. They also discuss the challenges men face in expressing emotions and the societal pressures that often lead to unhealthy competition, isolation, and more. Find out more about Lair HE…

Today, John shares his personal experience of losing his home to a devastating fire. He reflects on the significance of home, not just as a physical space, but as a representation of his journey and the memories created within its walls. He also expresses deep gratitude for the support he received from friends and strangers alike, highlighting the …

Today, John talks about how daily life things (such as traffic or getting a tooth pulled) can set you down a negative thought spiral. He discusses the importance of gratitude, the power of intentional thinking in everyday challenges, and how to reframing negative thoughts. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Singl…

Today, John talks with Yue and Julie, hosts of the podcast 'Datable' and authors of the book 'How to Be Datable,’ about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in the digital age. They also dive into evolving definitions of love, the challenges of healthy relationships, share pr…

Today, John answers a listener's question: what should I be doing if I'm going through a break up I can't get over? He discusses the significance of looking inward, building a life beyond relationships, the value of social connections, and more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE Follo…

Today, John shares his personal journey of transformation and the lessons he has learned along the way. He emphasizes the importance of trusting one's body and encourages listeners to find calm and fulfillment in the present moment, rather than chasing after specific desires. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Si…

Today, John talks about the four stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, discomfort, swimming past the breakers, and growth and healing. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these stages to navigate relationships more effectively and highlights the significance of self-awareness and personal growth within the context of love and con…

Today, John interviews good friend, therapist, and mindfulness coach, Dené Logan. They talk about how Dene moved through her divorce, moving through anxiety, understanding our addictive patterns, communicating more effectively in our relationships, and much more. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purp…

Today, John and Vanessa discuss the complexities of relationships, focusing on communication, attachment styles, and the importance of maintaining individuality. They touch on the dynamics of 'runners' and 'grabbers' in relationships, the significance of co-regulation, and give practical tips for sustaining a healthy partnership. Order John's new b…

Today, John Kim explores the concept of feeling incomplete and the importance of reparenting oneself to heal fragmented parts of our identity. He emphasizes the need for self-compassion, curiosity, and nurturing our inner child to create a sense of wholeness and alignment with our desires. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose HERE Jump into …

Today, John does a deep dive with Sean Cardinalli about sex, love, and porn addiction. They discuss the signs of what this looks like, how to address addiction, how to heal from it, and much more. Sean Cardinalli is a coach, writer, and activist who returned to coaching on sex & love addiction. Sean earned his local certificate through Linda Bark’s…

Today, John explores the concept of silent disagreements in relationships, emphasizing how unaddressed conflicts can lead to resentment and distance. He discusses the importance of open communication, the need for partners to express their expectations and desires, and the value of creating a safe space for dialogue. Order John's new book, Break Up…

Today, John discusses the concept of a relationship agreement, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding, conflict resolution, and personal responsibility. He highlights the necessity of fighting fair, taking ownership of one's actions, and navigating the delicate balance between control and invitation in relationships. Order John's new bo…

Today, John reflects on his journey as a father, discusses the challenges and joys of parenting, his personal growth, and the legacy he wishes to create. Through candid reflections, he explores the complexities of fatherhood, the importance of connection, and the desire to be a better parent than his own father was to him. Order John's new book, Br…

Today, John discusses the roots of hurt and the need for compassion, explaining that hurt often stems from unresolved personal issues. He provides insights on supporting partners dealing with depression, advocating for understanding and patience while navigating past relationship residues, and how boredom is a sign of disconnection from oneself. Yo…

Today, John asks thought-provoking questions to help examine your own narratives and beliefs in the New Year. He also emphasizes the need to awaken from autopilot living, embrace change, and pursue personal goals without the fear of failure. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HE…

In part two of The Unfinished Man Series, John and Lair explore the complexities of fatherhood, identity, and emotional health. They discuss Lair's personal experiences growing up without a father, the impact of that absence on his adult relationships, the challenges of transitioning into fatherhood, and much more. Find out more about Lair HERE Fol…

Today, John explores the themes of self-discovery, alignment, and personal growth. He discusses the subtlety of alignment in everyday life, encouraging listeners to notice and trust their organic feelings and desires as they navigate their paths. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose a…

Today, John discusses the significance of timing in breakups, the need for healing, and how his current relationship with Vanessa has provided him with a corrective love experience. He emphasizes the importance of honesty, self-discovery, and the lessons learned from both healthy and toxic relationships. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up.…

Today, John discusses how the environment we grow up in shapes our sense of self and emotional intelligence. He emphasizes that those who have endured hardships often emerge as empathetic and creative individuals, possessing a unique resilience and capacity for growth, and encourages listeners to recognize the strength within their stories. You can…

In this first episode of a five-part series, John and Lair Torrent (LMFT) explore the foundations of healthy relationships, the evolving role of men, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. They also discuss the importance of vulnerability, expressing emotional needs, reconnecting with one's authentic self, healing your inne…

Today, John and Brian Reeves do a deep dive into the depths of men's work. They discuss the impact of fatherhood on masculinity, the significance of rites of passage, men seeking connection, retreats, and more. Join Bryan's biweekly classes just for men in the SOP app HERE Find out more about Bryan HERE Follow Bryan on Instagram HERE Find out more …

Today, John talks about the necessity of repairing ruptures in relationships and how anxiety can serve as a marker for personal growth. He also discusses the importance of openness in relationships, particularly when addressing issues like intimacy and connection, and more. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into Joh…

Today, John explores the concept of closure, challenging the traditional view that it is a definitive end. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance over resolution, self-generated closure, the messy, non-linear nature of healing, and provides actionable steps to take. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s …

Today, John shares a client story about a couple, Kayla and Mark, who faced a stagnant marriage. John explores themes of transformation, co-creation, and the cyclical nature of relationships, emphasizing that allowing a relationship to 'die' can lead to a stronger, more authentic partnership. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,…

Today, John addresses two significant questions from his Single On Purpose community regarding dating and relationships. He discusses the challenges of putting oneself out there after a long period of being single, the anxiety that often arises in relationships, particularly around the six-month mark, and emphasizes the importance of self-connectio…

Today, John explores the concept of co-creation in relationships, emphasizing the importance of collaboration, mutual respect, and adaptability. He critiques traditional relationship models that rely on outdated dynamics and predefined roles, and concludes that the best relationships are built through intentional co-creation, rather than simply fou…

Today, John explores the concepts of healthy and unhealthy love, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, communication, and personal growth in relationships. He also discusses the evolving nature of love and the complexities involved in navigating relationships, ultimately highlighting that love can be both challenging and healing. You can pr…

Today, John reflects on his recent wedding in Mexico, sharing personal insights about love, relationships, and the importance of presence. He discusses the unconventional nature of his wedding, the significance of celebrating love authentically, the lessons learned from his journey, and more. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,…

Today, John explores the complex nature of obsession, discussing its duality as both a gift and a curse. He reflects on his personal experiences with obsession, and dives into the importance of recognizing when obsession becomes unhealthy and the need for balance in life. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’…

Today, John explores the eight different types of breakups, emphasizing that each type carries unique lessons and opportunities for personal growth. He discusses the emotional impacts of various breakups, from the initial heartbreak of 'the big one' to the complexities of divorce, and how to move on from each. You can pre-order John's new book, Bre…

Today, John brings on Francesca Sipma to discuss the journey of unlocking one's purpose through self-discovery and healing. They explore the importance of addressing emotional barriers, understanding intuition versus ego, aligning with the present, the transformative power of breathwork, and much more. Francesca is a former New Yorker, who spent he…

Today, John talks to Buddy Wakefield about the importance of balance in life, clarity that can come from celibacy, and the creative process that navigates both light and dark experiences. They also touch on cultural identity, the impermanence of life, the responsibility we hold in the current societal landscape, and much more. Follow Buddy on Insta…

Today, John discusses the impact of parental relationships on self-worth and emotional development, emphasizing the importance of nurturing oneself in ways that may have been lacking in childhood. He dives into practical strategies for self-compassion, identifying emotional needs, transforming negative self-talk, and regulating emotions through bod…

Today, John explores the profound impact of breakups on personal growth and self-discovery. He emphasizes that breakups serve as a mirror, reflecting our emotional patterns and unresolved wounds, and encourages listeners to view breakups as transformative opportunities for growth. You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump i…

Today, John explores the misconceptions surrounding heartbreak and breakups, emphasizing that our hearts do not break but stretch, allowing for personal growth and resilience. He also discusses the importance of understanding the pain of heartbreak, the necessity of coping mechanisms, the journey of self-discovery that follows a breakup, and much m…

Today, John reflects on his experiences as a parent and the generational differences in parenting styles. He emphasizes the importance of perspective in understanding one's life journey, the need to pull back to see the bigger picture, and how self-reflection can lead to emotional well-being. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Ju…

John talks about how wisdom is derived from lived experiences and how seeking new experiences can lead to personal growth and transformation. He emphasizes how by focusing on corrective experiences, individuals can challenge false beliefs and expand their understanding of love, relationships, and life itself. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On…

Today, John explores the transformative power of breakups. He also encourages listeners to reframe their narratives around breakups, viewing them as invitations to evolve into better versions of themselves, and to lean into the discomfort of pain, so one can learn valuable lessons and shed limiting beliefs leading to a more fulfilling future. Pre-o…

Today, John shares a series of poignant poems that delve into themes of creativity, personal growth, love, and relationships. He also explores how breakups can lead to breakthroughs, the ongoing journey of self-discovery, and the evolving nature of love. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Follow John on Instagram HERE Find out mo…

Today, John recounts the excitement of having a free day, the mishap with his motorcycle keys, and the subsequent challenges he faced. He emphasizes the value of accepting life's unpredictability, recognizing personal growth in how we respond to setbacks, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s Single. On Pu…

Today, John discusses the concept of 'Fuck It Friday,’and emphasizes the importance of taking time for oneself without guilt, exploring the balance between self-love and self-indulgence. He also talks about the practice of gratitude, encouraging listeners to reflect on unique aspects of their lives they appreciate, and his new book, Break Up On Pur…

Today, John challenges the traditional fairy tale narrative of love and relationships, arguing that the myth of 'happily ever after' is unrealistic and damaging. He discusses the importance of commitment, self-reflection, resilience in relationships, and emphasizes that real love requires effort, growth, and the willingness to navigate struggles to…

John shares his personal journey regarding sex, intimacy, early experiences, the shame he felt, and what he's learned from them. He also introduces the concept of co-creating intimacy with partners, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual pleasure, adaptability in sexual relationships, and more. Pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On P…

Today, John discusses the emotional complexities involved in breakups, including the concept of secondary loss and the importance of understanding one's emotional responses. He also explores the transformative potential of breakups, emphasizing that they can serve as catalysts for personal growth and self-discovery. Pre-order John's new book, Break…

Today, John discusses how most of our definitions of love are shaped by external influences leading to a disconnection from our true selves. He also explains how redefining our definitions, through personal experiences and emotional intelligence, will help advocate for a more authentic understanding of love and relationships in our lives. Pre-order…