Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place. I'm DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "NOW WHAT?", and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on ...
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Dear DSO: "It's Like When Your Boss Just Decides to Cut Your Pay!"
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In the latest episode of 'Dear DSO,' Ralph responds to a question from a participant called "Wordsmith." Wordsmith compares the decline of workplace wages to the decrease of intimacy in relationships, questioning why some women expect their partners to stay in a sexless marriage indefinitely. Ralph takes this opportunity to discuss relationship cha…
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Dear DSO: "I Feel Like My Wife is Just Using Me in Bed! There's No Connection!"
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A follower reaches out and shares the typical "anxious man/avoidant wife" scenario we hear about so often, but this time with one twist: His wife does seem to want sex, but it's only in an apparent attempt to get her sexual need met. There's no connection with him, at all. She seems very much disconnected emotionally from him and doesn't seem inter…
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DSO Reacts - Sadia Khan Dropping Truth Bombs About Women and Cheating!
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A lot of people have been sending me the link to a video interview between Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. In this episode of DSO Reacts, I break down a couple of points that Sadia makes about women and cheating, and give my two cents (hint: I agree). Join The HFM Brotherhood!Von Dad Starting Over
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Dear DSO: "Why Are Women So Mad When Men Relax?!"
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In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph discusses the topic of how men relax and how women perceive it. This subject was brought up by a contributor named Mr. Wordsmith 380. Ralph talks about why women might find men's leisure activities, especially when they're alone, annoying or misunderstood. He looks at the habits of male relaxation and how society …
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A Follow-Up To The "Scarcity" Video (from a live stream event)
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Ralph examines the psychology behind men's perceived scarcity in the dating world and its effect on their interactions with women. He looks at how this mindset influences their reactions to women's choices, whether it's about promiscuity or opting out of dating entirely. Ralph uses real examples and hypothetical scenarios to show how these dynamics…
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Ralph discusses pornography, sex work, and their psychological and social effects. He starts by examining the historical background of these industries, disproving the idea that they are recent inventions and instead showing they meet long-standing demands. He then addresses the psychological impacts on men who frequently watch porn, noting the ris…
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Ralph responds to a question from a YouTube viewer, Jason, about the dynamics of hooking up—not dating—after a divorce. Ralph explains the complexities of post-divorce relationships, especially for men who are anxious and how this can affect their decisions and emotions. Ralph goes into the mindset of newly divorced men, especially those who are an…
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Ralph addresses a letter from a listener named Dunk, dealing with the aftermath of his wife's infidelity. The episode explores the challenges of handling betrayal, mental health issues, and co-parenting with a difficult ex-partner. Ralph gives practical advice to help Dunk set boundaries, communicate effectively, and focus on personal growth. Dunk'…
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Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Wants Sex... Just Not With Me".
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Ralph discusses a listener-submitted story from Thomas about relationship issues and maintaining intimacy in marriage. The episode, titled "Wife not worried about being left," covers a relatable situation for many men. Ralph provides clear advice, addressing themes like religious constraints, emotional detachment, and personal growth. Thomas talks …
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Gentlemen: Your Scarcity is Killing You!
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Ralph discusses the widespread issue of scarcity mindset among men, especially in relationships. He explains the harmful effects of a scarcity mindset and how it manifests in negative comments and a pessimistic view of life and relationships. Ralph talks about the need to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset, particularly in relationships.…
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Lesbian Couples: High Rates of Dead Bedrooms and Divorce!
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In this episode, Ralph delves into the controversial topic of "lesbian bed death" and the unusually high divorce rates among lesbian couples compared to their heterosexual and gay male counterparts. Ralph uses statistical data from the Office for National Statistics and explores the psychological underpinnings and societal expectations that might c…
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The Paternity Testing Myth
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Ralph delves deep into the emotional traumas many men face due to infidelity and broken relationships. He critically examines the burgeoning trend of male victimhood and the echo chambers that fuel it. Ralph emphasizes the importance of sticking to factual data rather than sensationalized statistics when discussing issues like divorce rates and pat…
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Seven Signs That Your Wife May Be Cheating on You
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Ralph addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity and provides a nuanced perspective on why it might happen. He kicks off by debunking the myth that most women in relationships cheat, presenting scientific evidence and personal experiences to show that cheating is actually less common than some might believe. Ralph emphasizes that certain subsets o…
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Ralph delves into an intriguing message from a Facebook follower that serves as a perfect illustration of the typical challenges faced by men in today's dating and relationship landscape. The follower, whose message Ralph dissects, shares his frustrations and experiences with relationships that have led him to a place of cynicism and resentment tow…
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Ralph delves deep into the distressing world of infidelity, targeting the psychology behind why women cheat in relationships. Through a blend of data, anecdotal evidence, and expert insights, Ralph addresses the quintessential question plaguing many men who discover their partner has been unfaithful: Why? He pulls no punches in his explanation, set…
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Dear DSO: "We Are Not The Same Since My Wife's Emotional Affair"
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Ralph addresses a poignant letter from Jay, a long-time listener seeking advice on how to revive the dwindling romance in his marriage. The letter, filled with raw emotion, highlights Jay's struggle with feelings of inadequacy and longing after discovering his partner's emotional affair seven years into their relationship. Despite attempts at coupl…
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Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Enjoys Our Time... But Sometimes She Doesn't Orgasm"
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Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." In this episode, Ralph tackles the anxiety and insecurity surrounding permission-based intimacy in long-term relationships, especially in the face of health-related challenges. In our listener's scena…
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Ralph addresses a deeply personal letter from a listener named Jay, who is grappling with significant intimacy issues in his ten-year marriage. The common theme throughout this episode revolves around navigating the intricate web of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and its implications on marital intimacy, emotional disconnect, and the potential…
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Dear DSO: "I'm In An Abusive Relationship"
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Confused Husband seeks advice from Ralph on handling a toxic marriage where his wife despises his daughter and exhibits abusive behavior. He reveals deep-seated issues including threats, accusations of infidelity, and financial concerns tied to potential divorce. Ralph provides critical advice, highlighting the importance of cutting ties with the a…
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Dear DSO: "My Cheating Wife Wants Back"
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Ralph addresses John’s heart-wrenching predicament: his wife’s affair led to their separation, and now she wants to come back. Ralph sheds light on different types of affairs, emphasizing the deeply ingrained issues often underlying such actions. He suggests that John’s wife may be seeking a safety net rather than genuine reconciliation. Join the H…
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Dear DSO: "I'm Divorced and Ready to Get Back Out There. Or Am I...?"
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A 50-year-old man, Mister In Between, seeks advice from Ralph on rebuilding his life post-divorce. Diagnosed with depression and mild bipolar disorder, he grapples with isolation, a dead bedroom from a 28-year marriage, and navigating new social dynamics. Ralph discusses the risks and benefits of casual sexual encounters and the potential pitfalls …
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Dear DSO: "My Wife's Illness Is Impacting Our Relationship"
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Ralph tackles a heartfelt query from a listener named "Help," who is grappling with the challenges posed by his wife's debilitating condition, POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome). The listener's frustration over a sexless marriage, compounded by the daily struggles of managing a child with autism, paints a vivid picture of marital stra…
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Ralph addresses a poignant message from Lana, a 42-year-old woman facing a significant marital dilemma. Despite being attractive, fit, and highly sexual, Lana struggles with her husband's distant and emotionally abusive behavior. Over their 25 years of marriage, Lana has grown weary of her husband's lack of affection and wonders if the time has com…
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"You Only Do This Because I Told You To! It Doesn't Count!" (from a live stream)
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Ralph addresses Adnor's dilemma about seeking counseling for relationship issues without making it feel like an ultimatum. Drawing from real-life examples, Ralph emphasizes the importance of genuine effort and patience in resolving relationship problems. He discusses the complexities of seeking couples counseling and the necessity of finding a comp…
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Can a couple's sex life be sustainable over a the life of strict long-term monogamy? In this episode, Ralph explores the challenges of maintaining a fulfilling sex life as a couple ages. From the honeymoon phase to dealing with disease and aging, he delves into the concept of serial monogamy and why it may be a more realistic solution for many. He …
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