The Mommy Oyoyo podcast is a platform for the Modern African woman to talk about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING relating to Motherhood. Hosted and produced by Berry Dakara, listen to hear funny anecdotes, inspiring stories, challenging topics, heartbreaking moments and more that come with motherhood from an African perspective. African mothers in Africa and the Diaspora, listen in for honest, transparent, and authentic conversations about motherhood. Topics include Divorce, Homeschooling, Mum Guilt ...
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80. African and Childfree by Choice feat. Zeezee A.
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Typically in African society and culture, women are expected to not only have, but WANT to have children. From childhood, African women are generally told by society that marriage and motherhood are the ultimate life goals. In this episode, I speak with Zeezee, who has never felt the longing to be a mother. She shares very candidly about how she ca…
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79. Things I Miss About Life Before Kids/Motherhood
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Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with love, joy, and growth. But it's also natural to feel nostalgic for certain aspects of your pre-mom life. In this episode, we'll explore some of the things moms commonly miss, with a mix of humor, honesty, and a touch of wistfulness.Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, …
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78. Setting Goals and Plans as a Family
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Setting goals as a family can be a fantastic way to bond, grow, and create lasting memories throughout the year. In this episode, I share some processes and things to consider when setting goals and making plans as a family.
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77. Extracurricular Activities for Kids
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In this episode, I talk about choosing extra-curricular activities for your children. Topics DiscussedExamples of Extracurricular Activities Things to consider when choosing extra-curricular activities for kids, including Cost, Schedule, Interest, and more
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76 - MultiGenerational Living
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Are multigenerational households a thing of the past? In this episode I talk about the pros, challenges and my own personal experiences of multigenerational living.Topics Discussed What is multigenerational living? Why might people choose to live in multigenerational households The benefits of multigenerational living The challenges of multigenerat…
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75 - Stepmother Life featuring Tambari of @GoodStepmother
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Stepmothers generally have a bad connotation from negative stereotypes driven by fairytales and folklore around the world. In this episode, I speak with Tambari about her high and low experiences of stepmotherhood. She recently started the @GoodStepmother brand on Instagram to fight the negativity surrounding step-parenting and push more positive c…
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74. How to Raise Grateful Children
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In today's world where society seems to be more and more materialistic and entitled, how do we raise children to have an attitude of gratitude? In this episode I share my thoughts on teaching children to be more grateful, with examples from my own parenting experience. I talk about some of the benefits of living a grateful life, and share practical…
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73. Should My Child Go to a Sleepover
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When your children ask if they can go to their friends' houses for sleepovers, how do you respond? In this episode I share my thoughts on letting my daughter sleep over at someone else's house, as well as results from a poll posted on Instagram asking parents if they would let their child go to a sleepover. I also share a few tips for those parents…
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72. Should We Be Friends With Our Children?
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In this episode, I shared responses from the Mommy Oyoyo audience to the question, "Should we be friends with our children? Yay or Nay?" The responses were varied with some advocating for being friends with our children, a few saying we should not be friends with our children, and others stating that there should be a balance between parenting and …
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71. Long Distance Mother feat. Dr. Ijeoma Kola
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In this episode Dr. Ijeoma Kola shares about her approach to parenting her toddler long-distance. Ijeoma talks about the decision for her family to maintain residences in two countries (Kenya and America), which takes her away from her son for a few weeks at a time. We discuss why mothers are reprimanded for prioritizing their careers, whereas fath…
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70 - Fostering Your Child's Creativity feat. Titi Sule
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In this episode I speak with Titi Sule about her work as an author, and helping her seven year-old son become a first-time author! Titi shares how her son came about to writing a book on his own, her initial hesitation, working with him to edit and eventually publish his book! Listen to hear some practical tips on how to foster creativity and learn…
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69. It Takes a Village to Raise A Child - 10 Places to Find Your People feat. Berry Dakara
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We have all heard the phrase, "It takes a village to raise a child." It is an African proverb that speaks to the community or collective action of people in raising children. According to Wikipedia, "[it] means that an entire community of people must provide for and interact positively with children for those children to experience and grow in a sa…
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68. My Coparenting Experience feat. Berry Dakara
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In this episode I share about how coparenting has gone so far. I share candidly about some of the harder times, including periods when we couldn't stand to talk to each other (hello BLOCK button, LOL!). I also talk about how things are faring currently, and my ultimate wish for our coparenting relationship. RELATED EPISODES 54. Single Mom Life 66. …
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67. Dating As a Single Mother feat. Ebube N. A.
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In this episode, my second-time guest, Ebube gives us a life update! Since she first appeared on the podcast as a Single Mom, Ebube is now married and shares what her thought-process and journey was like as she navigated dating again. She answers questions about what she was looking for, how quickly she introduced her daughter to her now-husband, w…
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66. Child Support feat. Berry Dakara
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In this episode I share my thoughts on child support - paying child support and also requesting child support from the non-custodial parent. I talk about why some men may view child support in a negative light and I touch briefly on why all parties involved (whoever participated in the babymaking) should work to provide for their child[ren]. You mi…
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65. Having Only One Child featuring Berry Dakara
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In most African cultures, having just one child is seen as irregular, atypical or maybe even lowkey taboo. Typically, couples are encouraged to have multiple children in the hopes/belief that when you get older, you will have many children to take care of you. Unfortunately, a lot of times, the ability to take care of children financially, emotiona…
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64. Preparing for a Successful Maternity Leave as a Working Mom feat. Millie Malum | @MergingParenthood
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It's no secret that women stand the risk of being penalized career-wise when they become mothers. According to the Harvard Business Review, "Evidence from a variety of countries reveals that the longer new mothers are away from paid work, the less likely they are to be promoted, move into management, or receive a pay raise once their leave is over.…
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63. Is There a Limit to Active Parenting by Fathers?
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This episode comes from my thoughts after watching a particular video that made the rounds on Instagram in February 2021. The video made me question whether there are or should be some limits when it comes to parenting from the father.
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62. I Caught Covid! feat. Tomisin O | @TwentySix.Digital
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Third time guest Tomisin shares how she and her family caught covid, her symptoms and her recovery in this episode. Please note that neither of us are medical professionals or scientists. For up to date information about Covid-19, feel free to visit the CDC website or WHO website. Follow Tomisin on Instagram @TwentySix.Digital RELATED EPISODES 32. …
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61. Leaving Corporate Life for Entrepreneurship feat. Kome Olori | @SheDares2Succeed
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In this episode, my guest Kome Olori shared about how she chose to leave her career as a corporate banker for a life of entrepreneurship. A lot of women while on maternity leave wonder about staying home with the child[ren], going back to work, or doing a little of both. Kome walked us through her thought process on starting her Amazon selling busi…
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60. Teaching Children About Consent feat. Ndali Gregory-Ozegbe | @HandsOffNG
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*CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE MOMMY OYOYO AUDIENCE SURVEY 2021* In this episode, Ndali, Associate Director of Hands Off Initiative, talks about teaching children, teenagers and young adults about consent. Hands Off is an organization that aims to break the cycle of abuse and address the problem of rape, sexual abuse, harassment and assault. Ndali shared …
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59. Parenting Styles feat. Jayne A. | @FabMumNG
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*CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE MOMMY OYOYO AUDIENCE SURVEY 2021* In this episode, Jayne of FabMumNG and Mom ChitChat TV, talks about the 4 main parenting styles: Authoritative, Permissive, Uninvolved and Authoritative. She also shared tips on how a couple with different styles can find a common ground when it comes to parenting. Check out FabMumNG on soci…
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2020 Reflections, 2021 Wishes
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Happy New Year!
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58. Introducing Diversity to your Children feat. Vese Aghoghovbia | @PhillyNFriends
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In this episode I speak with Vese, the author of children's book, 'Who Do I See in The Mirror?' and owner of the Philly & Friends lifestyle brand. Vese shares her thoughts on introducing and speaking to your children about diversity at an early age. Vese and her brand have been featured on BBC News, Huffington Post, Hello! Magazine and recently won…
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57. My Experience as a Mother and Wheelchair User feat. Lizzy O | @TheLizzyO
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In this episode I speak with Lizzy, a Nigerian woman based in California about her motherhood experience so far while being in a wheelchair. Lizzy was disabled in 2008 after a spinal cord injury caused by a car crash. Lizzy shared how she manages her time as a full-time influencer, blogger, Youtuber and as a wife and mother to her adorable toddler,…
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56. Going Back to School as a Mom feat. Nene Azemogie @StillWaters_
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In the past, women with children who wished to further their education typically waited until their children were all grown up before they went back to school. These days, more and more women are pursuing degrees and certifications while their children are still pretty young. In this episode I speak to Nene who recently graduated with a postgraduat…
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55. Being a Mom Boss Without Mom Guilt feat. Victoria Downes | @TheVillageCreativeInc
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In this episode my guest, serial entrepreneur Victoria Downes shares her journey of the balancing act between being a business owner and mother. She talks about dealing with mom guilt when faced with needing to prioritize her business over attending her children's school activities, and how she has learned how to overcome the guilty feeling. Victor…
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What is happening in Nigeria right now is an affront to basic human rights. It is bigger than ending the SARS police unit. It is bigger than police brutality. Is this the Nigeria our grandparents fought for?????
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54. Single Mom Life feat. Berry Dakara
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According to Gallup World Poll data, Sub Saharan Africa has the highest percentage of single mothers worldwide - 32%. In typical African society, single motherhood is frowned upon (unless in the case of widowhood). Single mothers are meant to feel ashamed about raising children apart from their fathers. In this solo episode, I share about what bein…
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53. African Mum - Postpartum Depression feat. Zee | @For.Mamas
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According to the World Health Organization (WHO), "Worldwide about 10% of pregnant women and 13% of women who have just given birth experience a mental disorder, primarily depression. In developing countries this is even higher, i.e. 15.6% during pregnancy and 19.8% after child birth. In severe cases mothers’ suffering might be so severe that they …
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52. African Dad Vasectomy feat. Folabi Lawal
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Typically, when an African couple decides that they no longer want children, the woman bears the physical brunt of getting a a procedure done (hysterectomy, tubal ligation, etc) to prevent future pregnancies. It is pretty uncommon to find an African man who chooses to undergo a vasectomy. In fact, a UN report from 2013 stated that only 0.1% of Afri…
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51. Youtube Mom feat. Sola Awe | @DiscoveringNatural
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In this episode, Sola Awe talks about being a Youtube Vlogger, whose family - husband and teenage daughters - appear frequently in their multiple Youtube channels. Sola shared how she started and has grown her Youtube channel over the years, involving her daughters in the filming and social media process (from getting paid to privacy and security c…
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50. Raising Two Children on the Autism Spectrum feat. Lola Dada-Olley | @NotYourMamasAutism
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In this episode, my guest, Lola Dada-Olley shares the challenges that come with raising children on the autism spectrum. Lola's first child was about 18-months old when he was diagnosed with autism, and by then she had already given birth to her daughter who was also eventually diagnosed as autistic. Lola talked about receiving the diagnoses and le…
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49. Managing Motherhood and a C-Level Career feat. Iro Obuoforibo | @HiroHairven
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In this episode, I speak with Iro Obuoforibo about how she balances her life as a mother to toddler twin girls and a C-suite executive in multiple organizations across several industries. Iro is a high-achieving career woman with roles such as Chief Operating Officer, Chief Executive Officer, Executive Director, and yet is intentional about spendin…
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48. Girl Dad, African Father, Active Parenting feat. Dapo Peters
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Ask the typical African person how they were raised and the majority of them will talk about being raised by their mothers, while their fathers were not actively involved in parenting. Traditional African values look at the mother as the primary parent - feeding the children, playing with/talking to them, spending quality time, teaching the childre…
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47. Sex and the African Mother Part 2 feat. Yeside Olayinka-Agbola | @OloriCoitus
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Sex education is virtually non-existent in Africa due to religious and societal upbringing. Sex is considered to be a taboo topic that should not be discussed, at least not out loud and certainly not in public. In this part two of my conversation with sex educator/coach, Yeside aka OloriCoitus, she answers questions from the Mommy Oyoyo audience th…
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46. Sex and the African Mother Part 1 feat. Yeside Olayinka-Agbola | @OloriCoitus
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Sex education is virtually non-existent in Africa due to religious and societal upbringing. Sex is considered to be a taboo topic that should not be discussed, at least not out loud and certainly not in public. In this episode, sex educator/coach, Yeside aka OloriCoitus, speaks about how to discover or reclaim your sexuality, communicating your phy…
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45. PostPartum Care feat. Dr. Temi | The Omugwo Box
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"Everybody wants to hold the baby, but who holds the mother?" (Jabina Coleman) In this episode, I speak with Dr. Temi Aregbesola-Okere, a public health professional about her experience and thoughts on Postpartum care from an African (Nigerian specifically) standpoint versus postpartum care in the Diaspora. Dr. Temi shares about the topic from a pe…
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For the month of July I will not be publishing any podcast episodes as I use the time to rest, reset, refresh, reflect, and restrategize.
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44. Hyperemesis Gravidarum feat. Temi R. | @FirstTimeMumDotCom
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Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a debilitating condition that causes sufferers extreme nausea, near-constant vomiting, weight loss, dehydration and even fainting in pregnancy. The first time I heard about Hyperemesis Gravidarum was just a couple of years ago, when Temi talked about her experience having the condition. To be very honest, I still didn't qu…
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43. Raising African Children in the UK feat. Iko-Ojo Mercy Haruna
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In this episode, I have a chit chat with Mercy that touches on different aspects of raising her Nigerian children in England. We talk about identity, language, diversity, building a support system of mum friends, and working from home with children. Follow Mercy online @immeiko @gistwithmercyandjibz and website. You can also check out the podcast s…
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42. MicroPreemie/Premature Babies and NICU feat. Ola Adegbenro | @ColourfulBeginnings
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Ola Adegbenro, my guest in this episode, shares what having her two children prematurely was like. Her first child was born at 23 weeks (micropreemie) and spent 5 months in the NICU before being discharged home. Ola's second child was born at 29 weeks, about a month after she started Colourful Beginnings, a UK-based charity aimed at providing suppo…
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Sharing My Heart: Black Lives Matter | End Rape (Bonus Episode)
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It seems like the world has reached a boiling point in the past two weeks: another killing of an unarmed black man in America, and young women/girls being killed senselessly and subjected to rape in Nigeria. In this bonus episode I just share my thoughts and heart on everything that's going on. Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and che…
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41. Decade-Long Struggle to Have A Child feat. Mama Z.
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In today's episode, I chatted with Mama Z who struggled to get pregnant for about 7 years. She finally conceived, but unfortunately suffered a miscarriage a few months into her pregnancy. In her ninth year of marriage, Mama Z got pregnant again and on her tenth wedding anniversary, she and her husband celebrated their son's dedication. Listen to th…
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40. Mom Friends feat. Tomisin | @The.MillennialMum
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Is having mom friends important? How do you find or make mom friends? Is there a difference between mom friends in real life versus social media? In this episode, my guest Tomi and I talk about mom friends: whether it's necessary to have mom friends, the challenges of making (and keeping) mom friends, and more. Follow Tomisin on Instagram @the.mill…
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39. Heaven Baby/Life After Infant Loss feat. Lola Igunbor
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Nobody ever imagines losing their child, let alone an infant. It is a soul-wrenching and heartbreaking situation for anyone to ever go through. In this episode, Lola Igunbor talks very candidly about losing her son Elijah at just two weeks old. Lola's testimony is one that can only be attributed to divine emotional and spiritual healing. To reach L…
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38. Balance and Time Management as a Busy Working Mom feat. Dr. Lola Day | @LollieTasker
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Finding balance and learning how to manage time as a busy working mom can seem almost impossible. Sometimes I wonder whether I have fewer hours in the day than other mums who seem to accomplish so much! In this episode, Dr. Lola Day shares her time management tips as a working mom. She is a married mum of three, a full-time health professional, run…
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37. Stay At Home Mom with Purpose feat. Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo
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If you are a working mother, have you ever wondered what being a stay-at-home-mom is like? Do you think that SAHMs lounge at home all day, with nothing to do? In this episode, Eziaha Bolaji-Ojo shares what being a stay at home mom with a purpose has been like for her. She talks about transitioning from a job with the United Nations to being a frust…
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36. My High Risk Pregnancy - Incompetent Cervix and Bed Rest
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In this episode I talk about my high risk pregnancy: sharing why it was categorized as high risk, being admitted to the hospital twice, and having to be on strict bed rest. Previous episodes you may be interested in: 3. What Not to Say to Someone who is Trying to Conceive 13. Baby Names: What's in a Name? 34. Public Pregnancy Announcements Follow M…
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35. "Only Girls?!" Societal Pressure to Have a Male Child feat. Chinyere Abang @YummyMumLife
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"You need to try for a boy." "Who will carry on the family name?" "If you don't produce an heir, your husband will leave you." "Your girls will marry one day and leave you... you need a boy." If you're African, chances are that you've heard any of the above said to someone with only female children. In this episode, I interviewed Chinyere Abang of …
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