Sharing challenges and solutions for growing up with Complex PTSD. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers
CPTSD, Intergenerational PTSD, Relational Trauma | TMFR LLC
Peer-review and irreverent dark humor meet trauma recovery, without the "enforced bright sides." Let's talk about the complicated experience of rectifying a life built on trauma and relearning to be human... better than the people who raised you. You aren't alone, damaged, doomed, or dead yet. But with all the grit and gumption necessary to keep growing, you might be a real MF. Get 400+ research-heavy episodes and private community options Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers or t-mfrs.com f ...
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Discussions of a Latinx woman growing up in Chicago, on a little street called Normal Ave. Delve into my mind with me of how childhood trauma changed a woman's development and life and created the monster known as CPTSD Find me on Twitter @madgirlbluebox Email me at madgirlwithabluebox@gmail.com Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/little-house-on-normal-st/support
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Shallow relationships and Complex PTSD
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How interpersonal difficulties and feelings of dissociation can lead to shallow relationships, and how shallowness leads to shutting out happiness. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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4.4. Pathological Structuring of Narcissists (Or, No Integrity without Integration)
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They'll shake your hand while pissing on your leg, plead and then pulverize promises, and generally give the sense that they're one hundred people who share a face. But why? Let's talk about narcissist personality structuring that ranges from neurotic to psychopathic, but never hits the mark of "maturity." Meanwhile, creating the condition I've tit…
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Different ways of engaging with hobbies.
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Some details about engaging with hobbies and why being shallow is a fast route to unhappiness.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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How Happiness naturally comes from Confidence, and Confidence comes from genuine hobbies that bring you happiness.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Quick note related to last episode.
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I wanted to share the channel where you can watch the show I mentioned in the last episode.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Adults bullying kids when they're claiming to care for them.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Constant worrying, how I'm defeating it.
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I recently realized my constant worrying has drastically reduced, and I think I unexpectedly am defeating it.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Examples of why it's important to know your triggers.
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I give three examples of why it's important to know your triggers.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Combatting substance abuse through confidence building.
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How I used to combat substance abuse all wrong, because it was coming from a place of Low Self-esteem... and how I think confidence building is the real solution. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/suppo…
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Two scenarios: Fear of Confrontation and Second-guessing yourself.
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Sharing two scenarios that happened today involving confronting a fear and the importance of not second-guessing yourself.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Remind yourself that your demons might not be as scary to face as you think they are. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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The two solutions that helped me to stop desiring alcohol.
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I want to share how simply stopping drinking wasn't the full answer for me, I needed solutions to help me to stop desiring alcohol as a coping tool. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Handling personal situations differently.
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I have a real time situation happening and I want to share how I normally would respond (from a place of Low Self-esteem) vs how I now will respond (from a more confident headspace). --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjami…
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Doing things to fit in, and feeling disconnected from yourself.
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Dissociation and feeling disconnected from yourself because you've been trying to fit in. Confidence is the solution, in my opinion.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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When we feel wronged, but it turns out to be incorrect. Angry outbursts.
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Why I think people with Complex PTSD are more predisposed to feeling wronged, which can lead to angry outbursts, and then it turns out we were incorrect to begin with.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/s…
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Dissociation, Disingenuous and Low Self-esteem
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I had to redo this episode due to technical problems.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Dissociation and randomness
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How randomness can be a big part of feelings of dissociation. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Update on my technical stuff and topic for my next episode... dissociation and low Self-esteem.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Technical update --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Having patience when we're triggered.
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A recent situation that reminded me of the importance of having patience when we're triggered.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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The comfort of finding your routine.
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A recent series of events helped me to see how comforting my routine of reading, to cure boredom, really is.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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What happens when a rude person judges a confident person.
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An interesting observation about confidence, rudeness, rage and hobbies showing who we really are.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Knowing the difference between a hobby and a therapeutic activity.
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I want to share the importance of knowing the difference between a hobby and a therapeutic activity, because the sooner you know what your actual hobbies are the sooner you can engage with them. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/…
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Looking at things through a new lens.
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Family, my own rules to life, and solutions.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Trauma and finding hobbies that bring you happiness
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How finding hobbies that bring you happiness is the key to building confidence AND why you don't want to choose hobbies simply to fit in or for an image.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Long-term Memory and CPTSD
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Some points about long-term Memory and CPTSD --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Rude behavior, Selfishness and Lack of Confidence.
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I share how that book I've talked so much about relates perfectly to the rude person I described recently. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Why I have one of my triggers, and how it's affecting me less.
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How one of my triggers impacted me growing up and why it's affecting me less recently.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Scenario where someone's low Self-esteem is being manipulated.
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I was just told about a perfect example of where someone's low Self-esteem is being manipulated. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Confidence against gaslighting.
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How to perceive someone gaslighting, confidence vs low Self-esteem examples.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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I give an example of one activity I'm using to build my confidence.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Confidence and building Resilience to triggers.
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I share how confidence is the key ingredient to building Resilience to certain triggers rooted in low Self-esteem. I used the book, "The Novel Cure: An A-Z of Literary Remedies" by Ella Berthoud and Susan Elderkin.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcaste…
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Turn a nuisance into a mindfulness exercise.
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How I used a nuisance as a way of appreciating the value of something. And how my confidence has grown after learning I was struggling with low Self-esteem.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Helplessness, PTSD and the brain.
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With PTSD our brains can actually not activate a region that informs us we have control over a stressor. This is where helplessness comes in. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Class I took about our anxious brains.
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I want to share a little bit from a mental health class I took today.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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How my confidence building is working out.
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I want to share some key points about confidence building and how my approach is working so far.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Insecurity and ignorance
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A few comments about insecurity and ignorance. Two different subjects.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Clairvoyant experience, I just wanted to share.
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Fighting your fears means you're on the right path, and little signs might be shown to you.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Finding a project to work on, that takes time, can help us appreciate things more and help with impulse control.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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The importance of delaying gratification in relation to impulsive behavior, and how projects can help with this.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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Restraining our desire to think impulsively.
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How I learned to restrain my desire to think impulsively by following true crime for a year. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Impulsivity, one of the biggest hurdles with Complex PTSD.
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How impulsivity is one of the biggest hurdles with Complex PTSD.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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When we get off track. Stick to your routine.
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The importance of getting back to your routine, if you get off track.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Impulsive relationships
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Why our relationships may dissolve --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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When your acceptance of disrespect is rooted in denial stemming from your family judging your passions in your youth. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support…
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The importance of not correcting someone who constantly corrects you. Hint, it's a waste of your time. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Are you second-guessing yourself? Don't.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Accepting rude behavior from a spouse, what's it all about?
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Why some people accept rude behavior from their spouse, and what to do about it.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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More info regarding possible hobbies for self-esteem.
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Some more info regarding possible hobbies for self-esteem.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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Technical stuff related to podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/messageSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/benjamin-allen-belzer/support
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